Considering Cutting My Hair?

OpenmindedSingh · #**136** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 08:39 AM

"As I understand it, keeping hair means you get money and a car, losing the hair, your on your own."

At this point, I can say, no, that's not really the case. That was just a fear tactic employed by my parents.
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mr2guysingh · #**137** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 08:53 AM

Are you sure it is a fear tactic? And why do you even want to cut your hair? How do you think life will be easier for you? Girls, friends, etc?

OpenmindedSingh · #**138** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 08:56 AM

I've mentioned my reasoning several times throughout this thread.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/sikh-youth/38179-considering-cutting-my-hair.html
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I don't like my dhari, and I am going through this seemingly endless cycle of guilt whenever I cut it. I don't think I'm ever going to like my dhari (at least not any time soon) and I hate living through this endless cycle of guilt, which leads to fear, anxiety, and anger.

It's kind of like torturing myself mentally.

mr2guysingh · #**139** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 09:32 AM

Don't you press it down? Or do you leave it long? I would press it down and see what you think.

OpenmindedSingh · #**140** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 10:07 AM

I used to gel it and press it down, but it's really thick and long. If I left it uncut, it would reach past my chest by now.

mr2guysingh · #**141** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 10:12 AM

Don't use gel, use hair spray. My Sadar friend's beard is longer than that, and he uses hair spray.

Kanwaljit Singh · #**142** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 10:14 AM

Openminded ji I love my dhari. I don't know if it is over-romanticized mysticism or another obsession. My dhari is more important than any calendar on my phone or laptop. It is mark of the change within me. It is my personal timekeeper. I tried tying it. I never use hair fixer. But now I can't tie it using my old tools. And I actually haven't kept it tied since long. I have seen people make fun of me. My own aunts and cousins. My friends have said they find that look of me intimidating. And people have come up with online slogans saying 'I am a Singh, not a gyani'.
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What is a man's beard to him? Nothing. In the end, the beard along with his body will perish. But the beard is still a part of you. You might want to trim it or shave it away completely. Still there was a time when you were waiting for it to sprout, as a sign of your manlihood. That time you were sad you had no beard as people called you a boy not a man. Now you hate it for some reason. We are always manipulated by the society.

And now you come here to be manipulated by us. Then you ask who are we to judge you, where as you have declared openly your own views. All I am saying is listen to your own body. Your hair will keep on growing. That is the truth. Be accepting of that. Otherwise you will just have to add habit of shaving every week and getting a hair cut every two weeks. Add to that paying your barber, bowing your head in front of him and some money spent on hair gel (though less on shampoo! No wait more, you will shampoo more now as you will have no turban!). But I guess you have all thought it along. I just hope that your rage against your folks is not blinding you of the consequences that are to come. Might as well add you are going to hell if you cut your hair as Sikh, oh wait, that is not true, it is a lie.

Please send us your pictures before and after your loss of Kesh. We will flip it and post online on forums saying 'Back to Sikhi!' !! But GOD that is a lie too! What am I doing? Too many lies on my mind.

OpenmindedSingh · #**143** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 10:24 AM

"I just hope that your rage against your folks is not blinding you of the consequences that are to come."

It may be to an extent. The length of my dhari is something that I, personally, have to come to terms with. When it was longer, before I began covertly cutting it, I would avoid looking at myself in the mirror. This has resulted in a cycle of guilt, fear and worry which continues to this day. I never came to terms with it. Instead, I resorted to cutting it covertly, which I think most people would do if they were in my situation, because of the typical, conventional response from conservative Sikh parents such as my own.

Kanwaljit Singh · #**144** (**permalink**) 17-Jul-2012, 10:24 AM

And while am at it, let me post pics of Singhs with Chest long beard, showing it is not even half as embarrassing as pooping in your pants!

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_YVK9luYdli...+longbeard.jpg
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