Considering Cutting My Hair?

Kamala · #**109** (**permalink**) 18-May-2012, 04:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Luckysingh

I don't think that we should question each others religious scale or holding or even be judging. The opinions on here are not answers and they were never intended to be.
The opinions help the person to think much more about their actions and the impact.
This may be a religious site, but the people on here are normal human beings that can help and advise in plenty of other aspects of life as well.te
Were not just programmed to cite the rehat or Guru's words for every question.

Oh okay, but is he going to cut it

OpenmindedSingh · #**110** (**permalink**) 18-May-2012, 11:44 AM

I appreciate all the feedback and contributions that everyone has been making. I would have responded a little sooner, but for some reason, my email didn't inform of the subsequent replies.

As of now, I think I'm more confused than ever. I don't know whether that's a good or bad thing and I'm not going to determine whether it is. What really annoys me at this point is the fact that my mother continues to repeat the same rhetoric about not allowing me back home, taking my car, credit card, etc. if I trim my dhari. I'm going back home tomorrow as the semester is over and she said she is going to look at my dhari. So now I feel like I might end up keeping it out of fear, which is the last thing I want to do. I don't want to maintain Sikhi out of fear. Sikhi, historically, has stood in opposition to that very idea of coercing individuals into adopting different views and religious standards.
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I don't know whether my mother is responding the way she is out of fear, because she sounds really genuine and serious in her speech. It's really difficult to decipher whether she's just trying to scare me or not. Anyway, all of the rhetoric is making more confused, more guilty, more depressed, more angry. Now I'm beginning to equate maintaining Sikhi with maintaining good family relations and the basic luxuries I am afforded through them - tuition costs, housing, etc.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=38179

I agree with what was posted earlier about working on oneself as a Sikh and not being so judgmental.

harry haller · #**111** (**permalink**) 18-May-2012, 13:53 PM

Openmindedji

Please accept this situation has nothing to do with Sikhism, or your faith, and everything to do with family politics.

Your mother forcing you to keep your beard is no more Sikhi than forcing to you to wear red loon trousers. If I were you, I would embrace the loon trousers until you are old enough to stand on your own two feet, I think this fight will have to wait another day.

Your mother does not own Sikhi, she does not make the rules, this is about her pride and her fears, not yours. However, if you love her, and can take into account all she has done for you over the years, it is a small price to pay to keep her happy.

Just wear the bloody loon pants my friend and keep her happy, thats what sons do all over the world, dont drag Sikhi into this kaurhug

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Oh okay, but is he going to cut it

Kamalaji,

are you one of those people that hold the traffic up by staring at car crashes?

TigerStyleZ · #**112** (**permalink**) 18-May-2012, 18:36 PM

This is good , you need some fear to realize, or you will never learn. You are depressed- fight against this depression. If you want to maintain Sikhi - you have to go throu this fear. There is no way around it , like haller ji said. And when you are really abit interested in Sikhi , you will really get to know the need of "hair". I suggest you to live in Gurdwara 24/7 hours a day - and your mind will change rapidly - the need and the wanting to cut the hair was a product of your environment - I bet if you would have lived in a Gurdwara 24/7 you would never bother yourself nor any other person. Do you see the point? When you cut your hair you think you will get more happy because of your bahgra group and whatever but NO! If you really have love for Sikhi and be it abit you will understand. I am not you and I can not force you in the end it is you, who needs to stand for hisself . I don´t want to influence you like other things in environment (Sangat, whatever) . But do you see the point, it depends how much you are willing to accept Sikhi. The beard you now have , will protect you from some really bad things - trust me . It will remeber you on bad actions.And HAIR is a part of Sikhi - and that will NEVER change - you need to accept it not deny it! And I am still quite unsure that you told us the whole Story . In the end it is YOU and only YOU who decides - Am I a product of my environment - or am I ME, myself???
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Menu Sikh nahi pyare , menu Rehat pyare ee.
Guru Gobind Singh ji

Inderjeet Kaur · #**113** (**permalink**) 19-May-2012, 02:48 AM

OpenmindedSingh ji,

Ravi Singh of Khalsa Aid posted the below on Facebook and I asked his permission to share it with you. He agreed and makes you the following offer:

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I would also ask him to come to Haiti with me for few days before he cuts his hair ! He will see the love and respect we get as Singhs. We will pay his ticket and I will accompany him.

Please contact me either here or in a PM. and I will put you in contact with him directly. I would most strongly urge you to accept this offer. Khalsa Aid is doing marvelous sewa in Haiti. It would be the experience of a lifetime, as well as giving you some more experience on which to base your decision.

Ravi Singh ji says:

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There i was wearing a turban and walking towards a barbers chair !! Now i look back at that moment as an animal going to its own slaughter ! I was going to get someone to cut my hair off and it was going to be in front of dozens of new Air Force recruits !!! The year was 1988 ! The love my mother put into lovingly nourishing my hair for years was destroyed in seconds !! I really didn't think anything at the time as I never fully understood why hair are so important to Sikhs. Looking back now i feel it was one of the worst self-betrayals and the day my conscious committed suicide !! But after years of wilderness my Guru directed me back towards Sikhi ! No matter how weak I am as a Sikh, I will never stop trying to be better ! I hope my brothers who do not keep their hair or wear a turban will one day too have Gurus blessings and wear the crown on their heads and walk tall with pride and with a confidence of a king !!

TigerStyleZ · #**114** (**permalink**) 19-May-2012, 07:47 AM

Wow! Great! I can´t imagine you get a chance for a lifetime experience! Use it !
Thanks Inderjeet Kaur for sharing! Wish I could go there...

Ekampreet Kaur · #**115** (**permalink**) 19-May-2012, 09:33 AM

Sabat Surat Dastaar Sira..

Inderjeet Kaur · #**116** (**permalink**) 19-May-2012, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by TigerStyleZ

Wow! Great! I can´t imagine you get a chance for a lifetime experience! Use it !
Thanks Inderjeet Kaur for sharing! Wish I could go there...

That makes two of us!

But no need to thank me. I just asked Ravi ji if I could reproduce his status here and he did the rest.

animatedkhanda1

Gyani Jarnail Singh · #**117** (**permalink**) 19-May-2012, 11:16 AM

Those who have cut their hair just dont know the value of hair in Sikhi...All those Brave Sikhs in saragharree and WW1 and WWII and all those martyrs and all martial warriors..all have dastaars and full panj kakaars.....no MONASIKHS have ever achieved anything as a group..except may be a few individuals here and there..may be my personal opinion..and biased..but its my life experience...
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I have never had to stand in a Que ( not for long anyway...it always naturally happens..people in front of me smile and usher me along in front of them...had never stood in a crowded bus...sitting passengers always stood up after looking at my long flowing beard ..and smiled..in fact i received ROYAL TREATMENT for as far back as I can remember..and its all due to my Hair/dastaar..nothing less. I got preferential tretament long before my beard grew white and i turned "Golden" which qualifies everyone for such..BUT still I noticed that Youngsters sitting down in a LRT or Bus etc who wont stand up for pregnanat ladies, or old men of their own race..would definitley GET UP for me...and then I declined in favor of a pregnant lady or another old man standing nearby....thats LIFE as I experienced..and I THANK GURU JI for this Gift of hair and Gurbani..which guarantees ME privileged INVITES to Mansions i never could dream of entering..tea and lunch with high rnaking ministers, govt officials..etc etc...its a real PRIVELEGE to be having this REHAT of Guru Gobind Singh ji...
Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Guru Ji says.."Mein RULTA FIRTA koi baat na poochhta..."...BUT when we become HIS..like Dhanna Bhagat or ravidass who dont have a Half kauddi (half cent) between them all..become WORLD FAMOUS....and THAT i have experienced and feel "glorified" myself in...truly Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji speaks the TRUTH...