Keeping My Bodily Kesh (Hair) and Getting used to the Gazes

shasha · #46 (**permalink**) 24-Mar-2010, 04:39 AM

hi.
I am a new member and i want to say that this site is amazing. My story is very long and complicated but in a nutshell, im a british pakistani girl embrasing sikhism. I am currently married (to a pakistani man), and so it has been difficult. On this topic, i just want to know, i have been keeping my kesh for the past 8 months and as im from a culture that removes hair from intimate parts, it is becoming a little uncomfortable but i want to keep it for the love of sikhi. Have any other women experienced the same who used to remove hair? Also, more importantly, recently i have come to hear conflicting views on it, with some saying it is not a neccessity to keep hair. I would just like some clarification on the subject and if i will be punished for removing it or rewarded for keeping it. I am a member here but it is difficult to come here often because i would be in trouble if my husband found sikh sites, but if anybody wishes to e-mail me with help and advise i would really appreciate it. Personal email deleted. Many thanks
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Aneesha

Mai Harinder Kaur · #47 (**permalink**) 24-Mar-2010, 04:50 AM

Dear all,
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This budding Kaur is having a rough time in embracing Sikhi because of her culture. Please send her an e-mail both to give her information and also let her know there are people out here who care.

Thanks.

Narayanjot Kaur · #48 (**permalink**) 24-Mar-2010, 04:52 AM

Please send shasha ji a message using the SPN private message system. I have removed the personal email address for privacy and security reasons.

Mai Harinder Kaur · #49 (**permalink**) 24-Mar-2010, 04:58 AM

Dear Narayanjot ji,

She says

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I am a member here but it is difficult to come here often because i would be in trouble if my husband found sikh sites,

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Which means she is taking a chance of God-only-knows-what each times she comes here. Is there nothing that can be done to help her?

Narayanjot Kaur · #50 (**permalink**) 24-Mar-2010, 05:21 AM

shasha ji

It is not clear to me whether you are a Muslim trying to embrace Sikhi. Or whether you are a Sikh having questions on the issue of keeping pubic hair.

Nonetheless, we do not permit publication of personal email addresses because of a need to protect the safety and security on both ends. No one can predict who might contact you with evil intentions, to trick or blackmail, or even to engage in identity theft. At the same time, and I say this with respect, we don't know that you are who you say you are. We limit this to be able to prevent problems arising from the publication of your email address so all of the Internet can read it. It is safer for you and safer for others.

shasha · #51 (**permalink**) 24-Mar-2010, 06:37 AM

Thank you all for your messages, i was just about to go to sleep but part of me just wanted to browse here some more. I am Muslim but embracing Sikhi, and i totally understand why im not permitted to leave a personal e-mail add and thats fine, i just thought it would be easier to communicate if somebody didn't want to post their personal view / experiences. I would just like more information and what further steps i can take to embrace Sikhi.
Also, on a separate note, are converts seen as any different to those born Sikh? And would this affect being able to marry in future? Im trying to be as broad as possible without divulging too many details, i hope this is ok. Just another quick question, sorry, whilst im still with my husband im still wearing a hijab (headscarf) - it helps to conceal my uncut hair from family for now, would you say this is ok? Sorry for too many questions.
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Thank u.
Aneesha

Narayanjot Kaur · #52 (**permalink**) 24-Mar-2010, 07:25 AM

shasha ji

Welcome to SPN

and I don't think you are asking too many quesitons. Thank you for understanding my concerns about Internet safety and being gracious about my decision.
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It is fine to bring up these issues and you will probably receive a warm welcome too! We all learn from each other, not only about how to practice Sikhi our faith, but also why we think and feel as we do.
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I hope that you find your interactions with us positive and a learning experience. Sat Nam