<<O.K. then giving and taking dowry is also personal choice why people are against it.if an Ias officer can fetch dowry of 10 million rupeesss from any rich girl then its his personal choice.No need to say anything against dowry.AFTER ALL ITS PERSONAL CHOICE WE SHOULD RESPECT THE SENTIMENTS OF THOSE MEN WHICH ARE CAPABALE OF FETCHING SUCH HIGH DOWRY.>>
anyways...now you are stretching it to extremes,
parting with money, own or parents is different from cutting your hair or not.

still,

guys have right to keep dreaming of dowry...and girls have right to get them arrested


<<There are various cosmetic treatments available these days for girls to enhance there beauty like silicon implants,skin color improvement etc.How about if boys ask girls to
do take these treatments after all its a matter of personal choice and sentiments.>>

lol

i still donot understand you, you mean that guys have right to ask girls to get boob jobs done?

if a girl wants to get it done, heck yeah its her personal choice, as long as she is adult and understands medical implications.

An advisory opinion will not resolve the issues.

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No sir I am not at all stretching it to extreme .I am just supporting personal choice.If a
Man could fetch dowry of 10 million rupees and if rich girl and her parents are ready to give A man 10 million rupees then why is it consider it as wrong or crime.Also from where the question of arrest has come when both parties are readies.

I don't know why you are not at alll understanding it.I am just saying that if girls want's men to change their appearance for them then men have every right to ask them to change their apperance for them even if it is through cosmetic surgeries.

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the issue is not whether girls get their hair cut or not


issue is the unrealistic expectation from others to conform to one's perception of the right way.

<<No sir I am not at all stretching it to extreme .I am just supporting personal choice.If a
Man could fetch dowry of 10 million rupees and if rich girl and her parents are ready to give A man 10 million rupees then why is it consider it as wrong or crime.Also from where the question of arrest has come when both parties are readies.>>

then its a gift my dear and not dowry

but if a man asked for money......then even if girl's parents agree, it is a crime...so as the law of the land says.


<<I don't know why you are not at alll understanding it.I am just saying that if girls want's men to change their appearance for them then men have every right to ask them to change their apperance for them even if it is through cosmetic surgeries.>>

if a girl asks a guy to cut hair, he has same right as a girl who has the right to show her middle finger if the guy asks her to get a boob job without her personal choice for it.

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Then 90% of dowry in india is just a gift people just give indirect hints and everbody knows why a guy is marrying girl even the girl herself

Amar i Just have a question to you would you support those families who bid their boys for money and say that stop bashing those familes which love money.I am not saying dowry harrassment I am just saying if they marry their boys to highest bidder without any force and
with willingness of both parties.

That's what I am saying No girl will take that boy in high standard and will bash her whenever she gets chance. similarly people are just bashing those girls which are askling Sikh boys to cut hair.

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nope

i think ppl are bashing even those who got their hair cut and prefer guys with hair cut.

this bashing is because guys with hair are confused, they like girls with hair cut, but want them to keep hair.

invasion of personal choice


on dowry issue

as i said it is not even remotely linked, one is personal choice with own body, life and second is material and monetary


i wanted to make the point that guys whining abt girls prefering guys with cut hair need to stop and relook at themselves. Assess what they want in life and work towards it, not force it on others.

No one here said that cut hair girls should stop cutting their hairs.The original poster is just complaining how Sikh Sikh girls are discriminating Sikh boys boys because they are sardars this is not a case of personal choice its a clear case of discrimination.

This Dowry issue is not linked with this issue but it is just to show you example's of personal choice's which could be bad for communities ,society.Sikh girls very well know
that how much importance is given to Sikh swaroop in Sikhism and even if they discriminate against Sikh men only on the basis of this then they don't have any right to be call a Sikh themselves

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<<No one here said that cut hair girls should stop cutting their hairs.The original poster is just complaining how Sikh Sikh girls are discriminating Sikh boys boys because they are sardars this is not a case of personal choice its a clear case of discrimination.>>>

i donot see any discrimination, they donot refuse to be friends with them. it is just that their choice fr life partner is different. what is wrong with it?

and your second part of the post just sums up why i say that people are bashing girls for their choices.


<<Sikh girls very well know
that how much importance is given to Sikh swaroop in Sikhism and even if they discriminate against Sikh men only on the basis of this then they don't have any right to be call a Sikh themselves>>

now you sound like a fanatic - my opinion of Sikh swaroop is final...blah blah blah....

since when did sikhi relate to outer more than inner?

no, the double standard is that guys with turbans and beards want girls who wax, do their eyebrows, etc.

all your talk about skin color seems a bit racist to me.

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