Parental intrusion ruining couples' marital life: Delhi High Court

Soul_jyot · #1 (**permalink**) 20-Feb-2011, 02:16 AM

Feb 19, 2011

Parental intrusion ruining couples' marital life: Delhi High Court

PTI, Feb 19, 2011, 07.50pm IST

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NEW DELHI: The interference of parents in the married life of their daughters has become a major cause for playing havoc with the lives of young couples post marriage, the Delhi High Court has said.

Expressing concern over rift between couples due to parents' persistent interference in their daughter's married life, Justice Kailash Gambhir upheld a lower court's decree of divorce to a man on the ground of his in-laws' frequent interference in his marital life.

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Justice Gambhir said parents should draw a line to let their daughters lead happy married lives.

"All parents guide, teach and discipline their daughters and are concerned about their welfare after marriage but it is imperative for parents to draw a line as the prime concern should be that their daughter is happily settled in a new atmosphere at the husband's place," he said.

But, it should not mean day-to-day monitoring of the affairs taking place at the matrimonial home of the daughter, he said.

Parents should not become uninvited judges of problems of their daughter, become an obstacle in the daughter's married life, plant thoughts in her mind and gain control over her and promote disharmony in her family life, the judge said.

"They are expected to advise, support and believe in their upbringing maintaining a discreet silence about the affairs of the matrimonial relationship," the court said.

"The present case is an unfortunate example where the parents of the appellant, instead of putting out the fire have fuelled and fanned it," the court said, dismissing an appeal filed by the wife challenging the lower court's order granting the man decree of divorce.

According to the husband, the difference with his wife started a few months after their marriage in 1990 due to frequent interference of his in-laws.

He alleged that he was even hit publicly by his father-in law two years after his marriage.

Seeking decree of divorce, he had approached the court, which allowed his plea on the grounds of cruelty by his wife due to continuous interference by his in-laws.

source:
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Parental-intrusion-ruining-couples-marital-life-Delhi-high-court/articleshow/7529075.cms

a.mother · #2 (**permalink**) 21-Feb-2011, 07:53 AM

This is not only one case todays world have this problem everywhere eastern and western world. And parents are doing this purposely. When they know if husband is not dancing on their fingertip they file case against him for dowry. Generally saying they instruct their daughters to how to abuse their parent-in-laws and husband if they are dancing according to them.( how to teach theirs daughters to respect,to do house hold chores they have completely forgot ) Once daughters are married the total family include her mother,father dozzen brothers and sisters moved in (with daughter)

Amarpal · #3 (**permalink**) 21-Feb-2011, 22:27 PM

Dear Khalsa Ji,

It is not only parents. All the individuals who try to influence the interface of relationship between any two individuals in order to further their on agenda, create tension between to two. Persistence tension over a long period of time leads to break up as the interface of relationship becomes brittle.
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Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=34562

This applies to all relationship.

With love and respect for all.

Amarpal Singh
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spnadmin · #4 (**permalink**) 22-Feb-2011, 00:28 AM

Amarpal ji

I totally agree with your statement

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It is not only parents. All the individuals who try to influence the interface of relationship between any two individuals in order to further their on agenda, create tension between to two. Persistence tension over a long period of time leads to break up as the interface of relationship becomes brittle.

Relatives, even married friends of the bride engage in this. Often called "the committee" the group will advise a bride before marriage and in the early marriage what to look out for and what to do about it,, before anything has even happened. The slogan used is, "You (the bride) have to take control of this situation before he does, before his mother does." In other words, do it to "him" before "he" does it to "you." What kind of way is that to live life?