What do Sikh Women look for in Men?

ik-jivan · #10 (**permalink**) 28-Aug-2010, 07:01 AM

Oh, my ideal is pretty simple. . . he only has to be gurmukh.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/relationships/29277-what-do-sikh-women-look-men.html

As for preferences, a neatly tied dastar, with kes under that and an intelligent mind under that and a saint-soldier with a radiant heart under that would be a gift to cherish.

As a life-partner, he would have to agree that the reason for joining is to learn about the opposite gender and that agreement about the mundane things in life isn’t likely to come without compromise, communication and cooperation.

As for what I find attractive in a man, intelligence, diligence to duties, purposeful living, selflessness, equipoise, honour, respect and dynamic energy. . . a man on a mission to serve man and God, in which ever way his destiny determines. . . a gurmukh.

What I find extremely unattractive is deceitfulness, arrogance, cruelty, laziness and selfishness . . . these ‘qualities’ are enough to make me want to take a stiletto to his forehead to open up his mind. Clearly, I try to avoid this type for the sake of preserving man-kind, but when I can’t, I become the ‘bigger man’ and attempt to set an example.

Astroboy · #11 (**permalink**) 25-Apr-2011, 13:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ik-jivan

Oh, my ideal is pretty simple. . . he only has to be gurmukh.

As a life-partner, he would have to agree that the reason for joining is to learn about the opposite gender and that agreement about the mundane things in life isn’t likely to come without compromise, communication and cooperation.

As for what I find attractive in a man, intelligence, diligence to duties, purposeful living, selflessness, equipoise, honour, respect and dynamic energy. . . a man on a mission to serve man and God, in which ever way his destiny determines. . . a gurmukh.

How would a man know that he has these qualities. Normally one doesn't know one's achievements. There could be someone out there who's just right for your/one's needs but he doesn't know it, so he settles for a simpler life partner.

Seeker9 · #12 (**permalink**) 26-Apr-2011, 05:06 AM

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these ‘qualities’ are enough to make me want to take a stiletto to his forehead to open up his mind.

I gulped when I read that......

But agree those are not desirable qualities....he typed nervously......

Kanwaljit Singh · #13 (**permalink**) 12-May-2012, 09:04 AM

What about a man who daily oscillates between 2 extremes of everything?

Inderjeet Kaur · #14 (**permalink**) 12-May-2012, 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ik-jivan

Oh, my ideal is pretty simple. . . he only has to be gurmukh.

As for preferences, a neatly tied dastar, with kes under that and an intelligent mind under that and a saint-soldier with a radiant heart under that would be a gift to cherish.

As a life-partner, he would have to agree that the reason for joining is to learn about the opposite gender and that agreement about the mundane things in life isn’t likely to come without compromise, communication and cooperation.

As for what I find attractive in a man, intelligence, diligence to duties, purposeful living, selflessness, equipoise, honour, respect and dynamic energy. . . a man on a mission to serve man and God, in which ever way his destiny determines. . . a gurmukh.

When you find him, please find out if he has a much older, single brother.

kudihug

Astroboy · #15 (**permalink**) 01-Jul-2012, 22:21 PM

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lionprinceuk · #16 (**permalink**) 26-Nov-2012, 17:10 PM

I can post matrimonial lists from UK Gurdwaras if anyone wants an idea of what sikh females want?

missnice91 · #17 (**permalink**) 26-Jan-2013, 19:50 PM

Someone who appreciates you and wants you as a part of their life.
Someone who likes children and is not scared of being a father.
Someone who is strong and protective in heart and mind.
Someone who... is willing to try something new for the other... Perhaps cooking

icecreamkaur

Akasha · #18 (**permalink**) 27-Jan-2013, 03:03 AM

For me, I want someone who is not a control freak (who wants to dominate and be head of house etc). I want to be seen as an EQUAL partner in marriage. I also would like a man who is not afraid to help out around the house sometimes (after all men make messes too!) and help with cooking. I have a career, and do not plan to give everything up to become a housewife / maid for a man. So I need someone who will respect that in me, ....that I am a hard worker and will do everything to make both my career life and home life work, but that he should also do the same and help out! Money is not that important to me, but having a good work ethic is. Also I volunteer in the community so it would be good to meet someone with the same ideals. Basically I want to find my best friend, soul mate

Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=29277
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=29277

I AM attracted mostly to Punjabi guys...

always have been. And I prefer full turban wearing with their kesh!

(I had worried that finding a Punjabi man who would also fit the above with helping round the home etc... surprisingly, the men I have talked to, all said they have no problems helping their wives and have no issues with their wives also having a career!) - well all except that one guy I spoke to on FB who said the women's place is cooking cleaning and not have a career.... but he was not a good example!