What do Sikh Women look for in men?

ik-jivan · #10 (**permalink**) 28-Aug-2010, 07:01 AM

Oh, my ideal is pretty simple. . . he only has to be gurmukh.

As for preferences, a neatly tied dastar, with kes under that and an intelligent mind under that and a saint-soldier with a radiant heart under that would be a gift to cherish.
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As a life-partner, he would have to agree that the reason for joining is to learn about the opposite gender and that agreement about the mundane things in life isn’t likely to come without compromise, communication and cooperation.

As for what I find attractive in a man, intelligence, diligence to duties, purposeful living, selflessness, equipoise, honour, respect and dynamic energy. . . a man on a mission to serve man and God, in which ever way his destiny determines. . . a gurmukh.

What I find extremely unattractive is deceitfulness, arrogance, cruelty, laziness and selfishness . . . these ‘qualities’ are enough to make me want to take a stiletto to his forehead to open up his mind. Clearly, I try to avoid this type for the sake of preserving man-kind, but when I can’t, I become the ‘bigger man’ and attempt to set an example.

Astroboy · #11 (**permalink**) 25-Apr-2011, 13:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ik-jivan

Oh, my ideal is pretty simple. . . he only has to be gurmukh.

As a life-partner, he would have to agree that the reason for joining is to learn about the opposite gender and that agreement about the mundane things in life isn’t likely to come without compromise, communication and cooperation.

As for what I find attractive in a man, intelligence, diligence to duties, purposeful living, selflessness, equipoise, honour, respect and dynamic energy. . . a man on a mission to serve man and God, in which ever way his destiny determines. . . a gurmukh.

How would a man know that he has these qualities. Normally one doesn't know one's achievements. There could be someone out there who's just right for your/one's needs but he doesn't know it, so he settles for a simpler life partner.

Seeker9 · #12 (**permalink**) 26-Apr-2011, 05:06 AM

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these ‘qualities’ are enough to make me want to take a stiletto to his forehead to open up his mind.

I gulped when I read that......

But agree those are not desirable qualities....he typed nervously......

Kanwaljit Singh · #13 (**permalink**) 12-May-2012, 09:04 AM

What about a man who daily oscillates between 2 extremes of everything?

Inderjeet Kaur · #14 (**permalink**) 12-May-2012, 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ik-jivan

Oh, my ideal is pretty simple. . . he only has to be gurmukh.

As for preferences, a neatly tied dastar, with kes under that and an intelligent mind under that and a saint-soldier with a radiant heart under that would be a gift to cherish.

As a life-partner, he would have to agree that the reason for joining is to learn about the opposite gender and that agreement about the mundane things in life isn’t likely to come without compromise, communication and cooperation.

As for what I find attractive in a man, intelligence, diligence to duties, purposeful living, selflessness, equipoise, honour, respect and dynamic energy. . . a man on a mission to serve man and God, in which ever way his destiny determines. . . a gurmukh.

When you find him, please find out if he has a much older, single brother.