What does 'being in a relationship' mean from the point of view of Sikhism?

I haven been wondering about the issue of "dating". Personally I dont think anything is wrong with it, as long as it is what someone wants, not because it's the trend. Anyways what I am concerned about is the physical characteristics of dating. I believe getting physical is in a way necessary...in fact a natural thing..but I think making sex part of it...is not something a sikh should do...cause sex is the necessity of a marriage...which allows a couple to pass on sikhism...through their children. but what about dating..??
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Gurfateh

It is better to have sex after marrige as otherwise there could be medical,social and mental complications.But all is in hand of God.

You have to remember that the idea of 'having a girlfriend/boyfriend' was not a common practice like it is today.

It's entirely cultural and has absolutely nothing to do with religion (in my view, of course).

However, gurbani does state the importance of living a family life (gristi jeevan) as being one of the highest life imperatives on a par with doing naam, doing kirt and sharing one's earnings. Family life can only come about through sex, and the incredible value of sex is mentioned multiple times in gurbani...though those who think they're more 'orthodox' might refute the idea. Unsuccessfully, of course.

Max34:
"You have to remember that the idea of 'having a girlfriend/boyfriend' was not a common practice like it is today.

It's entirely cultural and has absolutely nothing to do with religion (in my view, of course)."
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Try doing search with the word KAM and see results.

Gurfateh

Bhai Jaspal Singh Ji,

does lust or Kam dies after marrige.Is Lust with own wife OK?
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Das thinks that Verse said in AnandKaraj are nothing to do with Husband and wife but just are message for to be wedded people that After marrige do not forget that sprit of both grrom and bride has one day,to be weded with Soul or God or Khsam or universal Husband.So do not have to go after this temprary wedding of tow bodies or spirit but go for unioin with Eternal wedding with eternal.

Das thinks that Das ji is correct about this. Sikhism is a faith of householders who aim to be Gursikh.
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All of life on earth is part of His play, part of His hukam, part of His divine creation. Good but not sufficient.

Also comes the the attitude of thanksgiving for the good fortune and blessing of life, and the desire to worship Him, and find Him, and be in relationship with Him.

did you dig out this old post

Amarsanghera Ji,
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Yes. And what is your view about a relationship ?

relationship

hmm...

let me take a crack at defining "what is relationship"

when two human beings find something in common- interests, formal organization, cultural or blood affinity, and there is a mutual exchange for equal or lop sided benefit, they are said to be in a relationship - a friend, boss-reportee, colleagues, cousins, husband-wife

now coming back to the topic, Dating

dating is a new name to the mating game.

its purely hormonal and a cultural mode of establishing relationships.
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no each relationship can progresss only with mutual approaches.

so the level to which a person wants to take a relationship depends on their openness to approach of the other. stimulus-reaction concept.
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Gurbani says that we should always remember our relationship to God. Relationships interfere with other relationships. they have tendency to dominate.

hence we should be careful that any relationship should not hinder our relationship with God.

this namjap ji

is my position on relationships.