What are the Duties of the Head of the Family?

Navjeet Singh Bajwa · #1 (**permalink**) 24-Oct-2011, 00:03 AM

i'm a 21 year old boy living in NZ.
My family is in Punjab and my dad is hospitalised and he is in serious condition.
Waheguru may this never happen, but if my dad doesnt makes it through and leaves us alone in this world , i would become the head of my family. In this case, what would be my duties ?
Im living here in New Zealand and my family is back home, it makes my life even more tough .
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Pray for my dad to get well soon .
Waheguru ji ka khalsa, Waheguru ji ki fateh ..
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prakash.s.bagga · #2 (**permalink**) 24-Oct-2011, 01:44 AM

Navjeet Singh Bajwa ji,
I make an Ardaasi to Hari ji for early and speedy recovery ofyour Dad so that you can gradually undrstand the duties and takeover from your Dad.As a head of the family one has to play a very balanced role with all family members.
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May Hari ji bless you with the required maturity to be able to do that.
Prakash.s.Bagga

findingmyway · #3 (**permalink**) 24-Oct-2011, 07:10 AM

Navjeet ji,
I hope your dad gets well soon. However, wouldn't your mother be the responsible one in the family? The head of the family is an outdated concept IMHO. Each have their own role to play in a family and that is when families do well as all feel responsibility. Don't stress yourself out alone, speak to your family. At this time it is more important than ever that you feel like you are one unit and there for each other

harry haller · #4 (**permalink**) 24-Oct-2011, 20:10 PM

Navjeetji,

If your father is in serious condition, you need to go home, now, not so much to take charge of the family, that is your mothers role, but to support her and the rest of your family through this tough time, No matter what you are doing in NZ, drop it and go home, support your mother, help your father, be practical, be pragmatic, Waheguru help you deal with this difficult situation

Navjeet Singh Bajwa · #5 (**permalink**) 25-Oct-2011, 01:52 AM

right now , im at Bangkok airport ,will reach home tomorrow morning .
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AKAL SAHAYE .

prakash.s.bagga · #6 (**permalink**) 25-Oct-2011, 02:19 AM

Harry Hallar ji,
I am greatly impressed by your suggestion which Navjeet Singh Bajwa has taken an exeplary decision to go and tkae care of his Dad and family members.
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May Sati GuRu help him.
Prakash.s.Bagga

BhagatSingh · #7 (**permalink**) 25-Oct-2011, 03:20 AM

Navjeet Singh ji,
I am not sure what the exact duties are but I can tell you the qualities you have to bring to the table. The head of the family posesses traditional masculine qualities. He is strong (intelligent as well), in control of himself and his environment, dominant (and takes the lead), decisive and protective. The head of the family takes responsibility for his hapiness and for the happiness of his family. He provides for his family.

Picture Guru Gobind Singh ji and that's pretty much what the head of a family looks like.

With your Dad in the hospital there is now a void which someone with those qualities must fill. This is a good opportunity for your to grow and mature. Go fill that void. Your mom's experience and wisdom will come in handy but ultimately as the head you must use it and lead the family.
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Meditation will come in handy. Learn some techniques so you can ground yourself in tough situations and be in control.

findingmyway · #8 (**permalink**) 25-Oct-2011, 04:46 AM

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Originally Posted by BhagatSingh

Navjeet Singh ji,
I am not sure what the exact duties are but I can tell you the qualities you have to bring to the table. The head of the family posesses traditional masculine qualities. He is strong (intelligent as well), in control of himself and his environment, dominant (and takes the lead), decisive and protective. The head of the family takes responsibility for his hapiness and for the happiness of his family. He provides for his family.

Picture Guru Gobind Singh ji and that's pretty much what the head of a family looks like.

With your Dad in the hospital there is now a void which someone with those qualities must fill. This is a good opportunity for your to grow and mature. Go fill that void. Your mom's experience and wisdom will come in handy but ultimately as the head you must use it and lead the family.

Meditation will come in handy. Learn some techniques so you can ground yourself in tough situations and be in control.

Thats a very sexist post. I feel sorry for your future wife and daughters

spnadmin · #9 (**permalink**) 25-Oct-2011, 06:33 AM

Navjeet ji

Please accept my blessings and my prayers. Go with a strong spirit if you can and do not be afraid to feel all the emotions that will come. The tree that bends with the wind is the tree that survives the storm. You will have to learn your role as it unfolds for you. It will not be as it was for your father because you are not your father but an entirely different person. But with your mind open and your eyes and ears aware to your family's needs you will learn fast enough. Good judgment comes with making mistakes. Do not be afraid to make them. Only be afraid that you do not learn from them. My heart is full of hope and and confidence that you will become the person your family needs.