Black Girl in Love with a Sikh Boy

I've know this guy for 2 years and have fallen in love with him. We go out do things together and have even spoken about marriage. The thing is I've never meet none of his friend nor family member. What I would like to ask.. Is it even possible for him to marry a black girl?? Would his family even accept me. Or I'm i setting myself up for serious disappointment.
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Dear Leon


As I think you are from Canada and it always depend on individual family ,
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Most of families have Migrated from India and might have rigid rules for marriage but as for sikhism as you might already know , there is nothing that can stop you from marrying anybody regardless of race .
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But the most important is your boyfriend , if he is Ok then I dont think there willbe problem

I hope everything turn up to be nice for you ,

JAtinder Singh

Well, I do believe that congratulations are in order (everyone seems to be falling in love today...woohoo!).

I really do hope things work out for you, but I'd be lying if I said that it will be a free and clean ride. Maybe his family will be cool with it. You'll just have to ask and find out.

Best of luck

dear
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It is encourageable,just try to bring whole family in Sikh fold but if they do not want then also it is OK.Matches are made by Akal and who are we to interfere.It is OK is she is pagan,jew or Chrisitan,as er old code of Sanatan Sikhs there could be some difficulty if she is muslim but at resent that is also not a big issue.
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sgce code may be not at er with it.

i mean with respect.. that it will cause problems unless u sort them out before marriage
like will ur kids be sikhs or wt?
if yes u will have to learn the basics of sikhism urself so u can teach the kids if not then in my point this endangers sikhi .. remember every little bit of damage can lead sikhi to extinction
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try thinking outsidde the box
dont take this as sumting against you
i really like this muslin girl in my school and if we ever get married (very unlikely this is hischool were talking about) then i will make it clear for her that she has to learn the basics and kids will be pure sikhs etc like i mentioned
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just my point of view! i hope it helps
discussing this with his family and him will really help

SAT SURI AHKAL JI !!!
Hello everyone...I am new here,and I do have a lot of quandaries that I hope this forum can help with. I have been married for 6 years to a Sikh man,and we have 4 children.When I met my husband, I became so in love with him and as well as his culture. All of his family are in Canada,London, and India. Both of his parents are passed away. For the first few years I didn't even know much about his other family members,just his older sister who would talk to me by phone(to this day i still have not met face to face,but still speak by phone).After 1 and a half years of marriage,one day one of my husbands friends had got into an argument over money,and came secretly to tell me "all about my husbands dirty laundry"...such as been married twice before to a white lady here in the states,and one before in London...all didn't "work" out...and so on and so on...Of course this hit me bad..and cause a lot of problems a little while...of which my husband said that he didn't want to lose me with his "past" and didn't want to tarnish his present and future,or be judged by his past. I let that go,and we moved on.O.K.....fast forward 6 years,and 4 kids later...my husbands past catches up with him,and to make a long story short,he is deported back to India,based upon a past of aliases, and paperwork that we couldn't process fast enough due to some financial hardships.So...here I sit with 4 kids no husband,and even though my whole family adores him(and of course met him by now) I've yet to see face to face any 1 family member.Even his family in India,his aunts ,uncles,cousins,Nani, all want me and the kids to come to India to have a Punjabi wedding,when things get better.His family on his mothers side in Canada even offered for me and the children to come to Canada to "take care" of us,until my husband comes home.In my family all I have left is my mom,2 older sister's,1 distant uncle,and a niece. My dad died back in 2005,and all my grandparents are passed away.

And yes I am African -American.So...why do I feel that maybe I'm not respected? Sometimes I feel that I'm not good enough, in that,every time someone gets married in India...all kinds of family members up and run to India for who-evers marriage?Because of this situation,I feel alone,hurt and that maybe I'm wasting my life and my children's life?This all started because my husband never 'legitimately" took care of his paperwork to begin with,but I look over that because I thought it was the right thing to do,and I wanted our marriage to work.Now that I am suffering very,very badly financially,emotionally,spiritually....out of all my husbands family members,I don't understand why 1 person each with $10.00 , $5.00, or whatever couldn't pool together some financial support for me and the kids? I am looking for any and all kinds of work...with the threat of losing my home in a rural country area in Texas going on,losing my car,the only means of transportation here(no buses,shopping et al).
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Even when my husband had sat in the Immigration jail from Jan 9Th-May 11Th...I still did all that I could to looking for work,seek help from welfare for food,half of rent utilities,personal items and so forth, and still ON MY OWN start a legal battle with the federal government to hold his deportation,to no avail.I even helped him win a delay in deportation for 3 weeks...but again to no avail. So...I'm pouring my heart out to you guys,because I want to know the top opinion....AM I BEING TAKEN FOR A RIDE HERE? SHOULD I MOVE ON IN LIFE,WHEN I HAVE A FEW GOOD YEARS LEFT?IS IT POSSIBLE THAT I CAN FIND A REAL GOOD GUY OF MAYBE EASTERN/WESTERN MIX THAT WOULD LOVE ME AND MY KIDS FOR US?that is my concern that my children are also Punjabi/Sikh...I don't want them to lose this part of their culture that belongs to them.I appreciate all comments or advise...as I am sick and tired of this....and I want a traditional marriage with someone that respects me and my children,honest,and have the love of God...is this still possible for me after this past/current history?
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BLESSINGS TO ALL,
Victoria Singh

Hi Victoria

From my perspective, the fact that the guy has children with you means he should exercise responsibility on his part. But sadly many men do not for various reasons.

However, based on what you posted I must say that it does seem like he was there for the long haul before his immigration "issues" caught up with him. If you are under severe hardships consider taking his Canadian relatives offer up. It will also give you an opportunity to meet his wider family.
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The ultimate truth is that only you know the true ins and outs of the relationship, and you will ultimately be in the best position to judge his sincerity compared to ANYONE else.

I think it is important to make sure the children have contact with the wider family. Regarding acceptance, The Panjabi Sikh community is notoriously conservative, but fromwhat I have seen they will soon accept the children if they do not do so immediately. It is important that you overcome any ignorance you encounter and meet with the family in a confident and friendly manner. What you feel about yourself is more important than what they may feel about you!

Hope this helps.

Hi Dalsingh!

Thanks for the quick reply! You have brought up 2 very positive points, about my in-laws in Canada~ and yes,for the most part he was in for the long haul. So, I would say that is 2 positive things against a whole lot of others things I have to consider. You know when you just intuitively feel somethings not "right"?. That's the staggering feeling or residue that lingers. Maybe I'm just emotional right now, but time will tell,and again thanks for your positive 2 cents, Yaar!
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Blessings,

Victoria

Ok, hold the phone people. Lets not get carried away here.

If a black girl marries a Sikh boy its ok? But if a Sikh girl marries a black guy its a disgrace?

Get your frikin priorities straight