I Am In Love With A Muslim Girl

Hello fellow users,
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It's been a while since I last posted anything on this site- mainly because I've been lazy- but I apologise (I'm aware of how strange it might seem that I only come online when I want advice). But I do want advice;

I am an eighteen year old Sikh, and have been attracted to a muslim girl for over a year now- everytime I see her, my heart lights up with such indescribable joy- even when we argue (). About two months ago, she revealed to me that she felt the same way- we both go to the same college. We've maintained a friednly relationship because i don't want to rush into anything, especially because this is an exam year, so i have to remain focussed. BUt over the last two months, my feelings for her have grown; grown so wildly that they have grown over any pre-conceived differences such as religious differences. My mother is not exactly thrilled about this, but she's ok with it- I do not care one bit for anything with religion, but was just wandering since i have a few freinds that disapprove of our relationship, what you people feel about this.

Thanks for your time.
Legumes

 
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I personally think the better way to approach this case may be: Give a lot of time and patience to the relationship before the final decision on the question: Can both of you gel together as a unit for a lifetime? Such relationships, bring alongwith them, a lot of cultural shock and social pressures. At this young age like yours, when you may or may not be able to support this relationship independently, these pressures assume enormous proportions.

Gurfateh

Nature of Duty of das is such that he can not have any matrimonial relationship with Muslims or Pakistanis.

Had it been otherwise das too would have married Muslim lady.But as per rules of order to which das belongs das would have converted her to Panth.
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either by Amrit Sanskar of Khalsa or by Naamdan cermony of Nirmalas at least.Because if she marries a Sikh she may not remain Muslim longer but we need to give her some faith at least.

Dear legume your post made das nostaligic.

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vijaydeep singh ji i don't understand your post. was the muslim lady not ready
to embrace sikhism and if she was ready to embrace sikhism then what is wrong with marrying with her.

It's not really a question of me converting to Islam or she converting to Sikhi- we've talked and neither of us finds religious conviction a problem. It's just that I want to verify what the people of this forum at least think- it's interesting to see how you respond to such a relationship- i can imagine if I was a muslim guy and she a skih girl, the attitude of the responses would have been very different.

Gurfateh
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Problem was that she had realtives in Pakistan and due to nature of Job of das it would have generated good lot of complexicities.

She was as jealot Muslim as Das himself is jealot Sikh,But is Muslim turns to Sprituality then it is not much difficult for him/her to be converted to Sikhism.

I have heard of relationships such as this. Along the line, they will present enormous problems. I think that the girl's family will have strong feelings about this and will not accept this relationship at any cost. Can you live with that?
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Sorry to be a wet blanket, but you need to face realities and practicalities. You are young and overwhelmed by your emotions. Give it time and be objective.

Hi ,

To some religion is important . But alas the world has changed and we are allowed to find love amongst different races and cultures.

So the most important question is , could you both respect each other's religion , the diffrence in your upbringing and if in the future you both decide to get married, what steps will you take when it comes to children?
Anyway you guys have a long way to go. I am muslim but my boyfriend is Sikh. We have lot of thingsin common, so for us religion actually takes a back seat. We do debate and have our own opinions but the most important thing is to respect eachother's opinion and to acknowledge the fact that we are on the same side. As for children, if we decide to have them someday, will be raised under Sikism. I am not very thrilled by my own religion. So goodluck. listen to your heart and have some fun understanding each other.

Dear Legumes ,,

Balle Balle , WonderFull , what are u waiting for .......
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Be Brave , Daring and Courageous and take up the challenge to marry her .

If you really Love Her No one Can Stop you from doing so ....

Goooooooooo..........................