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29-May-2012, 08:39 AM
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I have replied to your PM. Take care jios..
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Kabir says..Where Gyaan Knowledge is present..so is Dharma religion...in places where Jhooth-False/untruth resides..there resides Paap-distance form Him..Where LOBH- greed avarice resides its accompanied by Kaal DEATH of conscience.where there is abundance of Forgiveness, compassion..there resides HE HIMSELF. |
29-May-2012, 17:55 PM
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Satnaam Penji,
As all of the sangat members have stated, if you're getting a deep inner feeling to not send any more pictures, then do not do it.
in your body, you have the 'mind' and the 'soul'. Your mind is asking thousands of questions "what shall i do, what will happen etc etc etc" but the deep feeling you are getting is coming from your soul. please follow this feeling. Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/love-and-marriage/38566-need-urgent-advice.html
Do not feel depressed or upset. These are tests for both you and your future partner.
He is having problems controlling his desire and ego. They are overcoming him. But deep inside him is also the light of Guru Ji and maybe you can be string and be the person who will blow away the dirty fog so that his Light can shine through. You will be doing the most beautiful Seva. Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=38566
Keep strong. At night before you go to sleep, close you eyes and do ardaas Guru to come into your heart and show you how to best deal with this situation and then do as much simran as you can. It will help you relax and stay calm also.
Remember all Worldly relationships are false and temporary, the only true lasting relationship is with GuruJi/God.
God bless you.  | | The following member appreciates chazSingh Ji for the above message. | |
29-May-2012, 18:21 PM
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Sorry, I just found this really funny, couldn't you make him wait? Aap ka majboori spasht shabdo se bolo ji. | | The following member appreciates Kamala Ji for the above message. | |
29-May-2012, 19:12 PM
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I have tried all means so that he can wait but he is becoming aggressive.. |
29-May-2012, 19:20 PM
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stand your ground...and if he threatens to cancel the wedding tell him that you will be ok with cancelling it.
My wife used to threaten to leave me if i didnt do this or that, so one day when she tried the same threat i gently took out her suitcase and started packing her clothes into it. She was shocked, and she also realised that i wasnt fearful of the future. | | The following members appreciate chazSingh Ji for the above message. | |
29-May-2012, 20:04 PM
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Do not feel depressed or upset. These are tests for both you and your future partner.
He is having problems controlling his desire and ego. They are overcoming him. But deep inside him is also the light of Guru Ji and maybe you can be string and be the person who will blow away the dirty fog so that his Light can shine through. You will be doing the most beautiful Seva.
| Chazji,
This is a very frightened, very young, and very hurt and upset young girl who has just realised her Amritdhari fiance is a lust crazed bully who thinks nothing of using threats to get what he wants, might I suggest we skip his rehabilitation and concentrate on the young girl in question.
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Reason: took out the word pig
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29-May-2012, 20:55 PM
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Originally Posted by harry haller  Chazji,
This is a very frightened, very young, and very hurt and upset young girl who has just realised her Amritdhari fiance is a lust crazed bully who thinks nothing of using threats to get what he wants, might I suggest we skip his rehabilitation and concentrate on the young girl in question. | This young girl has already taken the first very brave steps in tackling this problem by putting a stop to sending pictures. She is listening to her true feelings which come from Waheguru Ji,
As of yet her marriage with this person is still going ahead. Deep down she wants this relationship to work, so if she can show her future husband (by her very own actions) that what he is doing is wrong, then maybe, just maybe he AWAKENS and becomes a better person and maybe...just maybe they might have a good future together.
She will know when the time is right to tell her family until then the sangat is here to give her advice and even speak to this person if necessary. | | The following member appreciates chazSingh Ji for the above message. | |
29-May-2012, 21:00 PM
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Originally Posted by harry haller Chazji,
This is a very frightened, very young, and very hurt and upset young girl who has just realised her Amritdhari fiance is a lust crazed bully who thinks nothing of using threats to get what he wants, might I suggest we skip his rehabilitation and concentrate on the young girl in question. | Also Satnaam Harry Ji,
You do not put aside the advice and guidance in the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji when un-comfortable situations are encountered. It is there to guide you through every situation in life.
If everyone in this world thought like this "might I suggest we skip his rehabilitation" then the world would be even darker than it is now.
The guru's came into the world to rehabilitate ALL of us. thanks god they never gave up on us.
And if Satnaam Penji truely believes this, they will both come out of this stronger and better people. |
30-May-2012, 08:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Kamala Aap ki vichola ko batao :P | What is vichola ? | 
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