Help! Im a White British Guy with a Sikh Girlfriend

No, Iv spoken to her mum. Her mum rang my mum and they had a conversation for over an hour. She agree's this isnt a religion thing, but a family problem. Her parents wont let her leave.
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Phil mate ji,

I did write a post, but it seems to have gone astray, basically I said that you should read www's post as that contained excellent first hand advice,

However as we have ascertained it is not a religious thing, but a cultural thing, my advice would be to cut your strings and put it down to life experience.,

The fact is you have said you are more serious than her, but unfortunately it is her that will have most of the loss, and how can two young people be happy together when one is losing her family, it makes it all very very hard, and although you have my utmost sympathy, I see only heartbreak and sorrow if you both decide to follow this path, The only last resort I would say you have is to ask your beloved what she wants to do, given the losses she will have to shoulder, and leave it to her decision, if she wants to fight, I wish you both the best of luck, if she intimates she would rather stick with her family, then you my friend have to take that as a man and move on without emotional blackmail or making things difficult, its hard, I know, but to lose an entire family is a big thing, regardless as to whether it is justified or not.
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Best of luck

Thanks, i'll be leaving this one up to her

Even if you become SIkh or whatever you still wouldn't be accepted by their family, it's the truth sorry. Now this is why I don't approve of dating without letting your parents know especially if they are traditional asians.
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There are more fish in the sea, don't worry, and stay in your limits. Also I have no idea why anyone would post this on a religous site xD

Well to be fair they are living in england... They should be able to accept some of our culture or there would be no point in being here. Arranged marriaged will more than likely be illegal here in the next few years anyways. I havent heard from her in over 2 weeks, who knows what her parents might have done to her. I just hope she's okay, I dont know what to do.

You don't understand, indian culture is way different from western and they may be really angry and may honor kill her if you don't leave her alone or if she blurts it out. So if you love her, it'd be best to leave her alone, since she isn't making an effort to stop the engagment.

phil06 thanks for the update.

Do what you have done over the last two weeks and move on!

Take care.

Philji,

I am sorry you have had to read and respond to a post containing such views, I am sure her parents have not killed her....

You are now learning and growing and I hope you recognise the value of being a bigger and better person. I know its hard, I know what love feels like, but true love is seeing love without rose coloured spectacles, I am proud of you brother, You did and continue to do the right thing.

I hope you find love again, ignore the rantings above about staying within limits, I would be fine with you dating my daughter, you seem like a fine fellow. However, next time, if you find yourself in a similar situation insist on not being kept in the background from day one, there are plenty of families that have no problem with dating or mixed marriages, you just happened to find one that did.

You are 20 and 17, why is marriage even being discussed from either you or her? Honestly, it seems like both of you have growing up to do before you make that decision to live together or marry. A 17 year old girl is still finding out who she is, give it time and grow before you make a move like this. Because I promise you she will be a very different person by the time she is 21 and out of college. And I also promise her family will be more receptive to something like this if she is older.