Need advice...Sikhi in relationships

By the way the main help was to refer me to sum inspirational articles or some good sites or may be a good book... But really thanx for all ur advices..
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Little sister,

Reading between the lines, it souds to me like this very religious chap has worn you down to the point that you would throw away yourself to be part of his life, this is not love, love is equal and goes in two different directions, do not make this into a choice between heart and head, it is not, neither is it about 'love', you are dependent on this boy, you feel you will be nothing without him, you are preparing yourself for either a life of servitude or loss, neither of which is particularly appealing, I would give you one more thought to think about, if you need him, like you may think you do, then that is not love, that is need, and they are two different things, love grows, love conquers, love can win everything over, but need, need is different, need is like a drug, you cannot explain why you need him, you just know you need him, like a drug, he has watched you become more and more in need of him, and in my view, he has abused this, he should have held your hand and walked with you as equals, so that need did not come into it, but I think you have been manipulated into becoming needy, with the next step complete slavery
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/love-and-marriage/37610-need-advice-sikhi-in-relationships.html

You seem an intelligent girl, little sis, please take a step back, and try remember what life was like before this relationship, remember how free you were, how you found pleasure in lots of things, not just him, how many many things brought a smile to your face, please try and remember that for me, and then make a decision based on what you know in your heart, and what you think you know in your head,

strangely enough, this argument is between your head and your heart, but it is your heart that wants freedom, your head does not believe you can exist alone, independent and strong, it has been fooled, reclaim it , be yourself again
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=37610

If I am way off then I apologise, I am writing it as I remember it when I was your age, good luck

When you have begun to mature as a Sikh, you will no longer be in conflict with yourself,

your heart and your mind will not be in conflict; they will work together in tandem. When that happens you will know exactly what to do.

That may be what you want, but what you really need IMO, is to look inside. Work on becoming a more mature Sikh and the only source you will need to consult is Guru ji, Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji.

Have you discussed this with Guruji (taken a hukamnama)? That would be one concrete step in the right direction.

http://www.allaboutsikhs.com/

http://www.sikh-history.com/

There one traditional boli in punjabi, I think you must learn this:
Ni main Sas kutni ikk nim da ghotna lyadi....
Catch this here:

hahaha .. thanx but m sure my saas wont force me to sing such a song for her...

Than... I think your saas is not a true punjabi women.
"Kiyo K saas bhi kabi bahu thi"

Wat r u talking about?? i mean her question was sumthng else... dont u think ur answer must be relevant to the question asked if u r trying to help??
And anyways pls dont make personal statements here.. especially about others...
Bhul Chuk maaf