Marriage between Gora Sikh (Male) and Punjabi Sikh (Female)

Gorasikh,

You are ahead of me, my friend, and I was born into sikhism! The only problems you will have are all cultural, I personally would prefer a son in law with a heart like yours, regardless of colour, rather than a born into sikhism indian with a questionable heart.

My situation is reversed, my wife is white, I am not. Her mother refused to meet me, my parents did meet her, but my mother despaired and also talked of izzat. We won over each others parents with love in the end. My wife does peri pena to my parents, and has made much effort to respect them, my mother has also taken to my wife, and now everything is ok, but it did take 3 or 4 years.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/love-and-marriage/35518-marriage-between-gora-sikh-male-punjabi.html
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=35518

As far as izzat goes, the more you are around, the less the izzat question is valid. I am not suggesting you ingratiate yourself with the family, but we live in accepting times, and your girlfriends family just need some validation from the local community that all is ok, and they will probably be very welcoming towards you.

Spnadminji is correct tho, wait till the brothers marriage is over, and take it slowly

 
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You are a Sikh too.
It shouldn't matter if you are a gora.

Gorasikh Ji,
If you are planning to be Amritdhari - you are one in a million. Amritdharis are the Ambassadors and protectors of Sikhi – not many of the people born in the faith are doing that at present. Have your Goal in mind always, follow True Sikhi, take direction from Granth Sahib and let the Lord carry you through.
If you get into details – the issues open like a cobweb. You are starting anew – a clean slate – untainted view of what Sikhi should be, that may set an example for a lot of us.

Hi Gorasikh,
I am goree lady and have married a Sikh man. He is not religious and I am a Catholic Christian. I have been religious all my life and baptized too. It was hard not having religion in common. I go to the Gurudwara but he would not go to my Church. The kids were not baptized anything and he said they could decide when they got older although they could go to the Temple. They were raised strictly Indian and learned the language too. I had to comply to make my marriage work. We have had many problems and his family did not accept me at first but after we had kids, all was fine. They love me now and compare me to their Indian daughter in laws. I think if Kaur's family accepts you, you will have to learn more of her culture. Since you have the same religion now, you will not have those differences. If you raise the kids Sikh, it will be more easy having a common religion and believing in Waheguru. I believe in one God, and many paths to get to God. I respect the rich Punjabi culture and can feel God's presence in my Church as well as in the Temple. I have learned the language too so it makes is easier to speak to my mother in law. My kids are all adults now and want to marry Indian people of different faiths. My husband will not accept my daughter marrying a Muslim. It is very hard. I think the more you have in common with your wife, the better. Just respect each others cultures and beliefs with a common love. I pray for God's blessings on you both. My marriage has been hard even to this day but with the grace of God, we will hopefully overcome all obstacles.

Dear Gorasikh Ji,

Just out of curiousity, did you start learning about Sikhi because of your friendship with her or was it something you did completely on your own, without any connection to anyone else? What sparked it?