Sikh Girl Wanting to Marry White Guy

Hi
We are in a situation and need help and advice.
I am a sikh british girl and I am in a relationship with a white guy, however he looks indian and (his nan is from india, yet his mother and father are white)
We both love eachother so so much and we want to get married and share our lives with eachother. I am not willing to have an arranged marridge as I will not be happy
and if it did happen it will end up in a divorce.
The problem is my parents and family are very traditional and I am scared and I know they will not except him. My parents are discussing marriadges for
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my older sister at the moment and they will be looking for a guy for me after my sister is married. This will not happen for me for bout 4-5 years yet we need advice
on how we can overcome this problem.
At the moment we have ideas of what we can do, as he looks indian, which is very fortunate. It is just with indian families when a girl gets married, its always
about what family they are from are they suitable etc.
Our ideas are:
. My boyfriend converting to sikh as he looks indian and adopting into an sikh family, however we think it is hard for a family willing to do this for us.
. Another idea was finding another couple in our situation , for example, a sikh guy who wants to marry a white woman, and me marrying the sikh guy
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just for everyone else to beleive and then we move abroad and we can be with our partners. ( we know its a long shot)
. Another idea was the same idea as above but, with a gay sikh couple, who parents would not accept there son being gay.
We would really appreciate anybodys advice or help and ideas?
Thanks

 
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You have so many questions and so many possible schemes. But are you ready to get married?

If everything were perfect, with no obstacles in the way, and no back up plans needed in case things don't work out - are you ready to get married emotionally?

If your answer is Yes - would it be an imposition of me to ask you why you do think you are?

Thank you

Hi, sorry my original thread is locked and dont knw how to unlock, so am replying to your reply on new article.

I know we have many ideas, but the way it is for me is I will be getting married in 4,5 years if i like it or not, this is the way my parents and family are. The way I see it is, I have found the person I want to be with, I believe that the man I am with is the only one for me. I will have no personal say, if I am ready to be married, it will just happen. Yes, i can say no to men my parents introduce me to, but still I will eventually have to say yes to someone. I have found that someone, so this is why we have wrote the original thread for help.
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I hope this has answered your question
thanks

star119 ji

It does not answer my questions. Sorry about that.

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Aman Singh

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The thread is open now.


What kinds of values do we need to bring to marriage to keep the relationship from starting and ending as a charade?


star ji

I do not see how two lovers can begin a life together that is based in trust when they resort to schemes such as you have described. It may seem that love will conquer all. But the love that conquers all is a love that has been mixed with wisdom about people and life.
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Please explain in your own words what kind of traits of a person make them ready for marriage.

I have read your post and trying to understand curcumstances. I have some questions for you;
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*1st of all are you really ready for marriage?
*Is your study complete?
*Are you working right now?
*Are you ready to live seperate life from your family?(I mean if parents are not willing for this)
*Are really in LOVE?
*What does love mean for you?

What I understand that love is all about giving not taking(nothing to expect).What I think personally your are really young for marriage right now.(why because as you said after 4-5 years after your sister's marriage that mean you have plenty of time to think) just don't RUSH.

A Mother,
You said it all.

Star1119 will you please answer all those Question's asked by A Mother so we can have better understanding where you stand if you really looking for an advice.

I will add one thing more:

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*1st of all are you really ready for marriage?
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*Is your study complete?
*Are you working right now?
*Are you ready to live separate life from your family? (I mean if parents are not willing for this)
*Are really in LOVE?
*What does love mean for you?

* If you decide to take this route what your Children's Future would be
Read the History of Maharaja Ranjit Singh Son Prince No-Nihal Singh was sent to UK when he was young and...................

Peace of Advise does not go to that Road. I have seen in my life few Girls doing it and today they are sorry and they had been cut out of their Family, Friend Circle and there children’s can not say what they are Sikh, Christen, Hindu or Muslim. So with your Lust & desire why they should suffer plus your family!

Bhul Chuk Maaf

A light-hearted peek into the future:

Before and after marriage:


Before - You take my breath away.
After - I feel like I’m suffocating.

Before - Twice a night.
After - Twice a month.

Before - She loves the way I take control of a Situation.
After - She called me a controlling, manipulative, egomaniac.

Before - Ricky & Lucy.
After - Fred & Ethel.

Before - Saturday Night Live.
After - Monday Night Football.

Before - He makes me feel like a million dollars.
After - If I had a dime for every stupid thing he’s done…

Before - Don’t Stop.
After - Don’t Start.

Before - The Sound of Music.
After - The Sound of Silence.

Before - Is that all you are eating?
After - Maybe you should just have a salad, honey.

Before - Wheel of Fortune.
After - Jeopardy.

Before - It’s like living a dream.
After - It’s a nightmare.

Before - $60/dozen.
After - $1.50/stem.

Before - Turbocharged.
After - Needs a jump-start

Before - We agree on everything!
After - Doesn’t she have a mind of her own?

Before - Victoria’s Secret.
After - Fruit of the Loom.

Before - Feathers & handcuffs.
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After - Ball and chain.

Before - Idol.
After - Idle.

Before - He’s lost without me.
After - Why can’t he ask for directions?

Before - When together, time stands still.
After - This relationship is going nowhere.

Before - Croissant and cappuccino.
After - Bagels and instant coffee.

Before - Oysters.
After - Fishsticks.

Before - I can hardly believe we found each other.
After - How the hell did I end up with someone like you?

Before - Romeo and Juliet.
After - Bill and Hillary!

- Unknown