Gora Trying to Please Sikh Family. Converting to Sikhism

Mai Harinder Kaur · #10 (**permalink**) 23-Sep-2009, 03:21 AM

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Originally Posted by goragorarang

Thanks for the replies, I will take your advice and hopefully everything works out in the end

You are most welcome, dear ji, from all of us, I am sure.

Now please relax.

It will all work out according to the Hukam of Vaheguru.

faujasingh · #11 (**permalink**) 23-Sep-2009, 04:57 AM

dont forget to invite us for the wedding !

Shanger · #12 (**permalink**) 29-Oct-2010, 05:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Randip Singh

The parents fear is you will corrupt their daughter and future grand kids.

The way to alay these fears is to become a Sikh. I think it would demonstrate your commitment, give you an understanding of another culture. Above all, you will see the world through Sikh eyes, and realise the prejudice we go through because of our appearance.

I think also it will give you great kudos amongst the Sikh community. I know of Gora's who have become Sikhs and they are some of the most respected members of the Sikh community. Our own Narayanjot and Mai are examples of this.

Surely it's better for someone to become sikh because they have read the granth and become convinced it is right and then decide they want to be sikh.

I think converting for the sake of pleasing a partner is wrong, and it's not any less wrong just because the guy respects the core principles of sikhism. I'm not saying that he should become a strict sikh, but that he should have 100% faith in it to call himself one. I was born in a sikh family, and I am currently looking into sikhism. Whilst I am very proud of the history and not following any other religion, I cannot call myself sikh until I have studied the whole religion and understand and believe. Otherwise I don't see how you can truly be a sikh, much like how a young child born in a conservative family isn't called a conservative as he/she does not understand.

p.s I know this topic is old and the guy has probably made his decision but I was just reading and wanted to address this. Your article on meat was a great read as well btw.

strachan · #13 (**permalink**) 19-Mar-2012, 15:50 PM

Goragorarang,

I'm really interested in how this panned out. Did you marry?

BaljinderS · #14 (**permalink**) 19-Mar-2012, 18:31 PM

Exactly Shanger Ji! This love thing confuses all your senses and you think you can do anything. From what I understand and have seen, this lovie dovie thing lasts for about two years and then reality kicks in. Oouch then you will find if you are really in love and right for each other

Marriage can be a challange it self and becoming a Sikh on the top... is pushing it over the edge to say the least.

I don't think its possible to change just like that, reading between the lines this guys is madly in love so he is trying to exhaust all options.

This is an insult from what I see or maybe I am wrong. If things don't work out will he go back to what ever he holds before.. my instincts tell me yes.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/love-and-marriage/26706-gora-trying-sikh-family-converting-sikhism.html
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=26706

Sorry if I sound negative just being realistic, reality will strike sooner or later.