Interfaith Marriage - Muslim & Sikh

makkanz · #1 (**permalink**) 03-Feb-2007, 10:49 AM

Salam and Hello, I would like to pose a question on interfaith marriage. I have heard from many people that marriage between a muslim & sikh is very much frowned upon. I would like to respectfully ask why? I have respect for all religions. I myself am a muslim. I would traditionally not be considered a good muslim given that i don't stictly follow the scriptures of the holy book. I do however believe i am a good person. I always try to do the right thing, make the world better for people who i come across and ofcourse my friends and family. I show respect and love to all. I do recognise the difference between right and wrong and always try to do the right thing. These are my beliefs and i live life according to them ... I believe all people are equal and their beliefs should be respected.Now ... here is my dilemma, i am deeply in love with a sikh girl and vice versa. Please let me clarify that when i mean love i dont mean physical attraction. This is someone who no matter what the situation makes me very happy and vice versa. Someone who completes my life. We both consider each other to be our soul mates. We are very equal in terms of our education, jobs and social standing and have very complimentary values.Everyone tells me that sikh muslim marriage cannot happen, why? i would like to find out first hand from people on this forum. I would like to encourage and logical and robust debate. Please give me the respect i will always give you regardless.Thank you.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/love-and-marriage/14946-interfaith-marriage-muslim-and-sikh.html
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=14946

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kds1980 · #2 (**permalink**) 03-Feb-2007, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by makkanz

Salam and Hello, I would like to pose a question on interfaith marriage. I have heard from many people that marriage between a muslim & sikh is very much frowned upon. I would like to respectfully ask why? I have respect for all religions. I myself am a muslim. I would traditionally not be considered a good muslim given that i don't stictly follow the scriptures of the holy book. I do however believe i am a good person. I always try to do the right thing, make the world better for people who i come across and ofcourse my friends and family. I show respect and love to all. I do recognise the difference between right and wrong and always try to do the right thing. These are my beliefs and i live life according to them ... I believe all people are equal and their beliefs should be respected.Now ... here is my dilemma, i am deeply in love with a sikh girl and vice versa. Please let me clarify that when i mean love i dont mean physical attraction. This is someone who no matter what the situation makes me very happy and vice versa. Someone who completes my life. We both consider each other to be our soul mates. We were broken up by circumstances a long time ago but now again we have found each other. We are very equal in terms of our education, jobs and social standing and have very complimentary values.Everyone tells me that sikh muslim marriage cannot happen, why? i would like to find out first hand from people on this forum. I would like to encourage and logical and robust debate. Please give me the respect i will always give you regardless.Thank you.

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i am really amazed why are you asking this question on sikh forum.it is your religion that does allow men to marry women apart from christian and jewish.
all other religions are considered as kaffir.so its better if you ask this question on muslim forum that why they don't allow you to marry ***** women

makkanz · #3 (**permalink**) 03-Feb-2007, 16:33 PM

so are you saying there is no reason from the sikh side?

makkanz · #4 (**permalink**) 03-Feb-2007, 16:36 PM

i did not mean to offend .. if i have .. i apologise .. i am ignorant of the beliefs on my side .. i do remember something vaguely about the old religions .. as i said before .. i live my life by my principles ... not by a religious text

kds1980 · #5 (**permalink**) 03-Feb-2007, 18:28 PM

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Originally Posted by makkanz

so are you saying there is no reason from the sikh side?

DEAR MAKKANZ

please don't mind but it is your religion that say that apart from muslims
all others are kaffir.so how could any sensible parents give their daughter to muslim.majority of muslim men that marry women from other religion ask them
to leave their faith and convert to islam.as far preference is concerned all parents of any religion want their children to marry within their faith.so their are reason from sikh society also.

now tell us will you ask her to convert to islam if not then is it acceptable to
your family and muslim society?

makkanz · #6 (**permalink**) 03-Feb-2007, 22:44 PM

you have a very valid question and the answer is no. I definately would not ask her to convert. If i did, she would not be who she is. I love her for who she is and that includes her beliefs.You are right, it would not be acceptable to the society. My family would find it very difficult as well, but it is not their decision. It would not change what i feel or change my decision. I find most mulslim cultures (and i use the word culture and not religion) have gone away from the true essence of the religion and are simply following cultural norms that have developed over the years. These are different in different regions and i find a lot of hypocrisy that people just refuse to see. Religions, to me, are about firstly giving you rigours and structures, a framework according to which you lead you life. They are there to guide you and to help you make the right decision. To teach you right and wrong and to teach you things, live love, empathy, humility etc.It is the essence of any religion that is the most important and to me all religions have the same essence if you are true to it.

makkanz · #7 (**permalink**) 03-Feb-2007, 22:47 PM

they teach you very similar values ... just different books ... and a different way of teaching them ...

kaur-1 · #8 (**permalink**) 04-Feb-2007, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by makkanz

they teach you very similar values ... just different books ... and a different way of teaching them ...

A Sikh can only marry a Sikh (see Sikh rehat maryada.) If you want to marry your Sikh friend, the anand karaj (wedding ceremony) will be held in a Gurdwara not a mosque!

If a non-sikh wants to marry a Sikh, then the advice to that person is start reading up on Sikh history, the Sikhs Guru's - their lives, their teachings, their legacy and most importantly, read and contemplate our Guru Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji. Start with Japji Sahib.

Maybe its your good karma to become a Sikh and a Son/Daughter of Sri Guru Gobind Singh ji.

Max Arthur Macauliffe, an English writer, delivered a speech at Akaal Bunga, Amritsar in 1899:
"There is another point to the merit of the Sikh religion that the founders of other religions in this world never wrote even one line with their own hands. You might have heard that there was a very famous Greek philosopher called Pythagoras who had many followers, but he never left behind anything written by him from which we could have known about the principles of his sect. After him came the second Greek philosopher named Socrates who was born in 500 B.C. He became a very famous religious leader who claimed that he was receiving Divine instructions from God within himself, which persuaded him to do good and prohibited from doing any evil deeds. But he too never left anything behind written by him, which could have shed light on his philosophy and its principles. Whatever we know about him, has only come through the writings of his follower, Plato. Besides there came Mahatma Buddh in India and he never wrote anything with his hands. Then came Christ who did not write anything himself either. His teachings are only known through the Bible, which was written by others. Then came Muhammad who was illiterate who also did not write down anything. However the Sikh Gurus acted quite opposite to all these religious leaders that they themselves dictated their message of Truth and compiled Guru Granth Sahib. In this respect the Sikh religion is far ahead than others."

There is major difference between Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji compared with other religious book. Sri Guru Granth sahib ji is not a mere book but our Guru. Not to be worshiped as an idol but to recognise Shabad Guru - the truth.

Sri Guru Granth Sahib jee is the only religious scripture written by the Guru’s themselves. No other religion can claim this. The Quran was written not by a prophet, but 30 years after Hazrat Muhammad passed away. Hazrat Muhammad himself was illiterate, so did not write anything. But the Kaa’ba and the Hajj is also a form of big idol worship. The Bible was written by the gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, none of them contemporaries of Jesus and written at least 60 years after Jesus.

japjisahib04 · #9 (**permalink**) 04-Feb-2007, 14:45 PM

Can you give me one single instance where such marriage took place and the Muslim have not left the girl few months after.