How Many Sikhs Have Married Out Of Caste/Race?

semicharmed · #**118** (**permalink**) 28-Aug-2007, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by drkhalsa

No shw is Indian Sikh men Hater Feminist to be specific !

Its all result of her personal experiences and cant be generalised
But personal experience is kind of best guide to you so cant help in such situtaion

"No shw is Indian Sikh men Hater Feminist to be specific !

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See....this is exactly what I'm talking about. I specifically mentioned that my comments were not meant to be offensive but I guess children must be replying to my thread. I make ONE comment about my own experience and I'm a 'feminist'

you are just proving my point that most of Sikh men are living in their double standard dream world where if we dare speak out about ANYTHING we're painted as feminists...I'm not at all offended, I'm happy that you helped me prove my point-thanks

Huck_Finn · #**119** (**permalink**) 28-Aug-2007, 10:57 AM

i understand your perspective jatinder ji
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thanks for elaborating

kds1980 · #**120** (**permalink**) 28-Aug-2007, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by semicharmed

"No shw is Indian Sikh men Hater Feminist to be specific !

"

See....this is exactly what I'm talking about. I specifically mentioned that my comments were not meant to be offensive but I guess children must be replying to my thread. I make ONE comment about my own experience and I'm a 'feminist'

you are just proving my point that most of Sikh men are living in their double standard dream world where if we dare speak out about ANYTHING we're painted as feminists...I'm not at all offended, I'm happy that you helped me prove my point-thanks

When you write something on forum then you should be ready that the other person after reading your post could reply or ask a question.If i start writing offensive statement against sikh women then do you think i am going to be spared.sikh women of spn will retaliate and
someone could even call me (mcp).So this is not a case of double standard.

drkhalsa · #**121** (**permalink**) 28-Aug-2007, 11:33 AM

"No shw is Indian Sikh men Hater Feminist to be specific !

"

Quote:

See....this is exactly what I'm talking about. I specifically mentioned that my comments were not meant to be offensive but I guess children must be replying to my thread. I make ONE comment about my own experience and I'm a 'feminist'

you are just proving my point that most of Sikh men are living in their double standard dream world where if we dare speak out about ANYTHING we're painted as feminists...I'm not at all offended, I'm happy that you helped me prove my point-thanks

dear Semicharmed

i am glad to know that you got your point straight !

I regret to start converstion with such note ( as in my previous post) but I was more kind of replying to KDS1980 post just below to your firdt post

My only point was that we form opinion based on or personal experience and they are our best guide but these opinion dont stand correct always for everybody in general

So is the case with your opinion I dont believe that this is situation in general and Females are so much suffering in our sikh families in general

As i am moderator on this forum so plz believe me It was not my intention to hurt you or discouirage you in any way I apologise for my unbalanced words that created confusion

Thanks
Have a nice time on this forum

Jatinder Singh

Randip Singh · #**122** (**permalink**) 25-Sep-2007, 19:49 PM

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Originally Posted by semicharmed

I know this is going to sound offensive but I don't think I intend on marrying anyone Sikh let alone Indian. That doesn't mean I'm going to marry whitey but having been raised in an Indian household, seeig first hand how the men are raised on this petastol, has left a very bitter taste in my mouth about the men. I don't like the double standard, and perhaps I'll find that with other cultures but the slightest threat to my freedom turns me off...yes I've painted them all with the same brush but I'm still waiting for that 'exception' to come along and well I'm still waiting

I started this post and had this dilemma like you. Sounds like me about 20 odd years ago.

As a young turbanned Sikh male, I absolutely despised and hated Indian women. Sikh women in particular.

Reason why? They made fun of my turban. They were very shallow and did not want to know the inner.

As a result I only dated women who were not of Indian background. I found that they were interested in me as a person.

HOWEVER, I met a wonderful Sikh woman at University (albeit) from a caste.....who totally changed my views. She is now my wife of nearly 20 years and we have 2 beautiful kids.

I now realise that I had become exactly what I had despised so much..........I treated every Indian woman in a very shallow manner....I saw them as all as mindless ....only concerned with looks.....money .....etc. My gut reaction with Indian women is still to clam up and be very icy with them........but I have to fight it and give them a chance and see them as people.

Archived_Member1 · #**123** (**permalink**) 11-Oct-2007, 04:49 AM

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Originally Posted by semicharmed

I know this is going to sound offensive but I don't think I intend on marrying anyone Sikh let alone Indian. That doesn't mean I'm going to marry whitey but having been raised in an Indian household, seeig first hand how the men are raised on this petastol, has left a very bitter taste in my mouth about the men. I don't like the double standard, and perhaps I'll find that with other cultures but the slightest threat to my freedom turns me off...yes I've painted them all with the same brush but I'm still waiting for that 'exception' to come along and well I'm still waiting

what's wrong with "whitey"

?

i'm a white sikh engaged to a mixed-caste punjabi sikh. what matters is that we share sikhi. yes, sometimes our cultural differences cause misunderstandings between us, but we're learning more about each other every day.

i think our children will be very lucky to come from a mixed family, they'll be more open and have less caste bias.

as long as both partners are sikh, everything should be fine. the goal is 'Ek Jot Doe Murti' after all.

gurfateh!

clarkejoey · #**124** (**permalink**) 12-Oct-2007, 01:34 AM

I will marry someone for who they are, not for what they are.
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I can take this position because i am an utter mongrel: paternal line - African, European (some German, some Jewish, and some German-Jewish), with a hint of "who-knows"; maternal line: Indian (don't know what region) plus creolised Welsh.

I can only marry out of race if i meet a suitable sino-Asian with Inuit and/or Australian Aborigine.

Please don't write off a whole race, not for any reason. It's not a matter of "exceptions"; there might be national and racial tendencies, but, basically, peoples are all pretty much alike.

Sherab · #**125** (**permalink**) 12-Oct-2007, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by kelly_kaur

what's wrong with "whitey"

?

i'm a white sikh engaged to a mixed-caste punjabi sikh. what matters is that we share sikhi. yes, sometimes our cultural differences cause misunderstandings between us, but we're learning more about each other every day.

i think our children will be very lucky to come from a mixed family, they'll be more open and have less caste bias.

as long as both partners are sikh, everything should be fine. the goal is 'Ek Jot Doe Murti' after all.

gurfateh!

Around all my indian friends (ibncluding my girlfriend) i refer to myself as "gora munda"

Kushi · #**126** (**permalink**) 18-Oct-2007, 13:53 PM

Hi,
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Her name became Amrit Kaur but yor name is Harbans LAL and not SINGH. please forgive me as i dont wish to hurt anyones feelings but she has adopted the sikh way of life have you ?