Sign Up |  Live StatsLive Stats    Articles 38,740| Comments 189,153| Members 19,973, Newest aarti| Online 352
Home Contact
 (Forgotten?): 
    Sikhism
    For best SPN experience, use Firefox Internet Browser!


                                                                   Your Banner Here!    




Click Here to Register/Sign Up Daily Hukamnama Member Blogs Downloads Website Navigation Help Fonts Tags
Sikh Philosophy Network » Sikh Philosophy Network » Hard Talk » Bullying & Harassing of Sikhs

Bullying & Harassing of Sikhs

Our Donation Goal : Why Donate? : Donate Today! : Donate Anonymously (ਗੁਪਤ) : Our Family of Supporters
Goal this month: 300 USD, Received: 0 USD (0%)
Please Donate...
       

Tags
bullying, harassing, sikhs
Reply Post New Topic In This Forum Stay Connected to Sikhism, Click Here to Register Now!
  #1 (permalink)  
Old 09-Apr-2014, 00:55 AM
IJSingh's Avatar IJSingh IJSingh is offline
 
Enrolled: Sep 24th, 2004
Posts: 64
IJSingh will become famous soon enoughIJSingh will become famous soon enoughIJSingh will become famous soon enoughIJSingh will become famous soon enoughIJSingh will become famous soon enoughIJSingh will become famous soon enough
   
Liked 262 Times in 60 Posts
   
Bullying & Harassing of Sikhs

  Donate Today!   Email to Friend  Tell a Friend   Show Printable Version  Print   Contact sikhphilosophy.net Administraion for any Suggestions, Ideas, Feedback.  Feedback  

Register to Remove Advertisements
BULLYING & HARASSING

I.J. Singh

We Sikhs are no strangers to bullying and harassment. We are also a minority and destined to remain one no matter where we live, whether it is somewhere in India where the faith originated over 500 years ago or in a modern megapolis like New York, London or Toronto. And minorities make attractive targets; the more vulnerable they appear the more tempting to pick on.

Today I am talking about our reality in the United States and Canada, although my comments would find sufficient common ground in much of the world and even in parts of India. Sure enough the Internet erupts often with incidents that do not become a civilized society, when ordinary people are bullied at work, school or play just because they speak a different language, look somewhat different or march to a different religious or cultural beat. But such is our fate and we rue it often, no matter if the targets are Sikh children, Sikh adults, even diplomats or accomplished Sikh professionals and business magnates.

Over the last decade, in North America we have evolved institutions like SALDEF, Sikh Coalition and United Sikhs to discourage and combat such hooliganism by pursuing legal recourse as and when possible. The struggle continues and will likely go on.

After every occasion that catches our eye we wonder why is it that after a full century in a barely 300 years old country (United States) the average Joe knows so little of Sikhs that he treats them so shabbily -- like total aliens from a different planet. Our frustration boils over and we pledge to change this reality by new and more powerful initiatives.

Hope springs eternal but dies young; the cycle continues.

We often wonder if perhaps we should run newspaper ads to tell the world that Sikhs are peaceful productive citizens with a rich heritage and a noble way of life -- Sikhi. Perhaps we should widely distribute free illustrated booklets on Sikhi and the Sikh people at street corners.

We could buy air time on media to showcase phenomenally successful Sikhs and/or Sikhi and its message. I leave out social media only because I am so inexperienced with them but they, too, offer possibilities.

No question that we should think of all these things and many more. Yet, sometimes we get discouraged, even angry, with our spokespersons and representatives that try but seem to fail just as mightily, if not always nobly.

However, more meaningful than fancy ads and paid hucksters may be the interaction of ordinary Sikhs with their ordinary non-Sikh neighbors and colleagues.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/hard-talk/42310-bullying-and-harassing-of-sikhs.html

Remember that it is your neighbor who will help you in time of need and protect you; it is also your neighbor who will kill you when the tables turn.

What I just said sounds so cruel and thoughtless but that’s what history teaches us. Just peruse the events of 1947 and 1984 for starters. Between those two events several hundred thousand Sikhs were killed in cold blood, in 1947 by Muslims and in 1984 by Hindu mobs; 1984 was worse because it could not have happened without the collusion of political leaders of India.

Both times neighbors turned on neighbors but it was also some non-Sikh neighbors who hid and saved many Sikh lives. Such behavior is widely seen wherever there has been civil strife, whether in Germany where ordinary Germans protected Jews from the authorities or conversely turned them in to the Gestapo during the Second World War.

There is no question that bullying deserves to be stamped out. No question that our initiatives need to be assertive. More “show and tell” opportunities about the Sikh turban and long hair need to be cultivated.

I remember in the early ‘60s when I was a graduate student in Oregon the seven year old daughter of my good friends and neighbors asked if she could take me to her grade school for “Show and Tell.” “Of course” was my automatic response and off we trotted to her school where I demonstrated the art of the turban and managing the long hair etc. Over the years there came many more similar opportunities to educate and entertain. It was a total pleasure and I see now that it is being increasingly and systematically done in many schools across the country.

Clearly this kind of interaction is absolutely priceless. Our neighbors have to learn about us and to know us but for that to work we have to learn about them and know them just as well. Life is a two-way street and sometimes we fall behind in that.

We sometimes get frustrated that after a hundred years of Sikhs in this country people know so

little about us. My answer sometimes floors or irritates my Sikh friends when I challenge them

on how little we have learned of our neighbors in the same hundred years.

Recently my attention was riveted on a front page headline (New York Times, November 8,

2013): “Swastikas, Slurs and Torment in Town’s Schools.” It highlighted the harassment and

bullying of Jewish children and their community in this day and age, not in rural Georgia or

Mississippi, but in an upstate part of a civilized rural haven just 90 miles north of New York

City. I confess that the report blew me away.

Can you imagine a picture of President Obama with a swastika adorning his forehead that

remained on the wall of an 8th

students “reported anti-Semitic epithets and nicknames, and horrific jokes about the Holocaust.”

These were also several additional disturbing incidents.

The Times report started on Page one but went on to cover a full page inside. The school has

been sued and is vigorously contesting the suit. But my point today is different.

grade social studies class at a school for almost a month? Jewish

It is not that Jews are the new kids on the block as Sikhs appear to the larger community. Jews

have been an integral part of the American life for almost as long as the community has existed.

The Jews have an enviable record of success in all parts of the community – financial, political,

professional, and philanthropic, as well as community service. The world is not a stranger to the

Jews’ record in arts, sciences and entrepreneurship. I am not going to recount here their roster of

Nobel laureates in the arts and sciences, for instance; it easily exceeds the accomplishments of

many communities.

Why is it then that such deep pockets of resentment, envy and plain pig headedness still exist in

this very generous, progressive and open society?

I am also not going to step into the murky waters of why the tensions between Jews and

Gentiles arose so long ago in history and why they have persisted. Why the people of the three

Abrahamic faiths (Jews, Christians and Moslems) have been at loggerheads historically is a

different matter for another time.

The point is that it isn’t because the larger society does not know the Jews. So, ads on television

and in newspapers on how the Jews are good people are not likely to help very much. Yet

such initiatives can’t hurt and are seemingly useful reminders, so they periodically appear in all

media.

Yet, until the end of the Second World war Jews were not easily admitted to American medical

schools; some professions have a long record of closed doors against women and minorities,

including the Jews.

Immigrants to this land face three stark but complex aspects of a troublesome issue: matters

of identity, integration and assimilation. To my mind the idea of assimilation translates as

homogenization and that is a loss to the immigrant as well as to the host culture. It makes no

sense whatsoever. Therefore, I reject the idea of a melting pot. Incidentally the emphasis on the

melting pot is not as old as we think. It entered the national dialogue only after 1912 following a

Broadway play of the same name by Israel Zangwill.

The better metaphors for the mix that is our contemporary culture remain the mosaic or a multi-
instrument orchestra. Identity and integration can and should coexist and will enrich both the

new arrival and the host society. I have dealt with these issues at considerable length elsewhere.

In any community many stages and levels of identity, integration and assimilation will exist at

any given time, and they do in the Jews and Sikhs as well. So the larger Sikh world, like the

Jewish community, shows all three matters energetically debated within their own community

which often shows sharp division along these lines. Don’t forget that the Jews have been at it
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=42310

much longer and problems still raise their ugly head.

Over the better than 2000 years in the diaspora Jews have interacted with the wider world and

lived intimately with people of different color, customs, religions, cultures, music and cuisine.

Where cultures rub against each other and interact borders are always porous and a degree of

assimilation occurs. But interaction with others is how Jews likely acquired their immense social

capital which has propelled them on a dramatically successful arc.

I know I have spent much time on Jews in this essay. Forget not that American history records

some very discriminatory chapters on the treatment of East Europeans, Asians, Blacks, Japanese,

even Germans, Italians and Irish at different times of their journey in America. What I find

fascinating is that now many of them have forgotten their past and are the new bullies on

the block. In this essay I am going to deliberately step away from the long and historically

troublesome Black experience in this culture.

My position is that, in the final analysis, these matters – like adhering to one’s identity or

integrating without assimilating – are not always the reasons for the tension between a people

and the strangers around them. And that stress lines between communities are both universal and

also inevitable.

I think the tensions amongst communities are the way of all mankind. They have existed as long

as we humans have. It seems to me, therefore, that to discriminate and prejudge others must be

hard wired in the DNA. Perhaps this is how we defined our enemies and friends ages ago and

still instinctively continue to do – even more so in bad economic times.

It is the core of our identity to separate the world into “them and us, friends and foes.” It takes

time, even generations, to evolve an outer directed worldview, to transcend the barriers and

enlarge the circle to become inclusive, until the next stranger or a new community comes to

the door. The other side of the argument is that it is like fences between neighbors that are so

essential to a civilized society but, at times, morph into seemingly impregnable walls.

So what hits us as prejudice may initially be only a protective behavioral trait. It seems then

that ads and media events would help, and they do. Yes, they are necessary so do them, but

remember that they alone would never be enough. This is critical to understand.

With such a broad perspective on the roots of bullying we may like to think globally and we

should but we have to act locally. In the final analysis, this is where all action starts.

What we need more than expensive ads are ground level programs that foster communication

between ordinary Sikhs and their ordinary non-Sikh neighbors – most useful would be a degree

of deliberately cultivated and calculated porosity of borders where neighbors come in contact

with each other.

It takes quite a while of rubbing shoulders to recognize that even if some people speak a different

tongue or dance to a different tune there is more in common between people than there are

differences. For this to occur what would be necessary are invitations and visits to homes,

churches, synagogues, community centers, schools, neighborhood block parties and invitations to

gurduaras.

The proverbial old trick of knocking on your neighbors’ door to borrow a cup of sugar has an

age-old lesson that we must not forget.

If there is to be an ad on public media with an iconic Sikh face on it, the message that I want it to

convey is not “Look at me; I am a Sikh and Sikhs are successful leaders or tycoons etc” but one

that is far more direct and inclusive, “Come on in, let’s not be strangers to each other.”

Bullying and harassment should never be swept aside. But let’s not put all the eggs of our hopes

in that one basket of media ads. Let’s not succumb to despair either. SALDEF, Sikh Coalition

and Kaur Foundation have been developing imaginative programs at the ground level and that’s

the way to go. For example, where do U.S. law enforcement agencies and airport security

personnel go to learn what little they know about Sikhs? Less to our gurduaras and more to Sikh

Coalition and SALDEF, and we need to support and strengthen such endeavors. And we need to

develop neighborhood activities.

Our efforts need the aging with time that is so essential to the construction of a lasting

relationship. A progressive society has a goal in mind – an equal place at the table for all of its

members, despite our differences.

The work of building bridges is never finished, nor can it be successfully outsourced. It is

forever an ongoing process. It always remains one of life’s unfinished businesses.

ijsingh99@gmail.com

February 20, 2014



Do you agree or disagree with the writer above? Why not share your immediate thoughts with us! Login Now! or Sign Up Today! to share your views... Gurfateh!
Reply With Quote
The following member appreciates IJSingh Ji for the above message.
Sponsored Links
   Click Here to Donate Now!
Related Topics...
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
The Anti Bullying Movement: UNITED SIKHS Endorses And Supports The Anti Bullying Caucus Created By Congressman Mike Honda findingmyway United Sikhs 0 05-Jun-2012 02:41 AM
Sikhs at White House Conference on Bullying spnadmin United States 0 21-Mar-2011 03:01 AM
Bullying Is Everyone's Problem spnadmin Parenting 0 14-Dec-2010 12:15 PM
Bullying extremists give all Sikhs an undeserved bad name Archived_Member16 Hard Talk 1 28-Apr-2010 18:59 PM
How to Deal With Bullying in Schools? Admin Singh FAQs for Students 0 16-Apr-2010 00:45 AM


Support Us!
Become a Promoter!
Gurfateh ji, you can become a SPN Promoter by Donating as little as $10 each month. With limited resources & high operational costs, your donations make it possible for us to deliver a quality website and spread the teachings of the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, to serve & uplift humanity. Every contribution counts. Donate Generously. Gurfateh!
ReplyPost New Topic In This Forum Stay Connected to Sikhism, Click Here to Register Now!

Bookmarks


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

» Active Discussions
Inter-Religious...
Yesterday 23:56 PM
25 Replies, 5,621 Views
A Proposed Hair Sampling...
Yesterday 23:04 PM
3 Replies, 66 Views
Fools Who Wrangle Over...
Yesterday 17:59 PM
1,261 Replies, 139,007 Views
Adjectives to describe...
Yesterday 00:54 AM
0 Replies, 69 Views
Sikhs honour Police...
15-Apr-2014 19:49 PM
0 Replies, 69 Views
Vaisakhi resolution...
15-Apr-2014 19:45 PM
0 Replies, 55 Views
When Guru Gobind Singh...
15-Apr-2014 16:30 PM
1 Replies, 146 Views
Thought of the Moment!
14-Apr-2014 10:41 AM
286 Replies, 22,878 Views
Going Back To India :)
By Akasha
14-Apr-2014 04:45 AM
4 Replies, 203 Views
UK open to Sikh as head...
By Abneet
14-Apr-2014 03:44 AM
5 Replies, 148 Views
Legendary Sikh sword...
12-Apr-2014 10:33 AM
0 Replies, 104 Views
Do you find this Sikh...
12-Apr-2014 04:54 AM
64 Replies, 18,245 Views
Permission cancelled for...
11-Apr-2014 14:27 PM
0 Replies, 121 Views
Khushwant Singh:...
10-Apr-2014 16:47 PM
1 Replies, 204 Views
An Old Sikh Joke
09-Apr-2014 17:17 PM
2 Replies, 2,689 Views
» Books You Should Read...
Powered by vBadvanced CMPS v3.2.3
All times are GMT +5.5. The time now is 00:40 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2 Copyright © 2004-2014, All Rights Reserved. Sikh Philosophy Network


Page generated in 0.28655 seconds with 33 queries