Differences between men and women !!!!!

Astroboy · #73 (**permalink**) 21-Apr-2008, 11:52 AM

10 Signs You're Being Needy

By David Wygant
Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Apr 20, 2008

In my ten years of coaching men and women on the perils of dating and relationships, the one journey women tell me they never want to go on again is meeting and hanging out with the "needy and clingy" man.

Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.

Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.
Now, I can practically hear men's voices protesting from everywhere, saying "But David, there are a lot of needy women too!" This article is not about them... it's about you.
Below are ten signs that you are being needy. Remember you are trying to attract women, not turn them off. So if you suffer from any of these signs of neediness, you need to immediately stop those actions.
1. You just walked a woman to her door at the end of a date. Instead of kissing her, you ask her if she had a good time. Women are attracted to confident men. They don't want to have to tell you that they had a good time on a date... they want you to be secure enough in yourself to assume that they had a good time.
2. You called a woman last night and she has not yet called you back, so you either email her or call her again to ask her if she received your message. If you want to push her away, this is one of the best ways to get her to quickly run away from you.
3. You start texting a woman you just began dating five or six times a day. You are over-texting her. You don't need to check in every two hours. That's a sign of neediness and clingy behavior that turns women off.
4. You miss a call on your cell phone from a phone number that you don't recognize. You call the woman you're dating, and to whom you talked just two hours before, and ask, "Did you just call me?" This kind of behavior is going to push and scare her away.
5. You agree with everything the woman you're dating says. Women are not looking for a man who agrees with everything they say. Women want a man who challenges them and from whom they can learn. When a man agrees with everything a woman says, he is telling her that he'll do anything to have a relationship (which is another sign of being needy).
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/business-and-lifestyle/18966-differences-between-men-and-women.html
6. The woman you're dating is out for the evening with her friends. She promised to call you when she got home. It's getting late and you haven't heard from her. You just can't resist and you call her cell phone several times until she answers it. This is a sign of being needy and insecure. She's out with her friends... not out with another guy. Let her have some personal space and she'll respect you more.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=18966
7. You are too available. If you have plans with a friend, keep those plans even if the woman you're dating asks you to do something that night. Women don't want men who are like a 7-Eleven -- convenient and ready 24/7.
8. You try to please a woman all the time. I'm all about men doing nice things for women, but she has to earn it. Some men will let a woman walk all over them, and then continue to be a sponge and allow it over and over again. Stand up for yourself and she'll respect you more. Letting a woman walk all over you is a clear sign to her that you're needy.
9. Don't be afraid to challenge a woman. If you don't agree with something a woman says, don't just sit there and agree with her thinking it's what she wants. Women are looking for someone who is going to stimulate their mind... not bore them. Women are not turned on by men they can completely control.
10. Be the man! Have a plan and stick with it. Women like men who plan out evenings of fun.

Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her

Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her, then come up with a fun plan that you will already know she'll like. A needy man will do whatever a woman wants. A man of action will create plans for what they will do. Being a man of action will lead her to find you a lot more attractive in the long run.
Women are attracted to men who are confident and real. Women want to feel like you need them... but only after you already have your own life, your own ambitions, and your own goals.
The moment a man starts getting too clingy, a woman will run for the hills. This is exactly like how you will pull back from a woman who becomes clingy and needy.

Huck_Finn · #74 (**permalink**) 22-Apr-2008, 10:55 AM

typical stereotypes

mkm · #75 (**permalink**) 23-Apr-2008, 00:17 AM

All jio

Arent women of deferent cultures behave different way? It is the culture that affects the mind set of women and men?

Astroboy · #76 (**permalink**) 02-Jan-2009, 14:36 PM

Hard lessons Men have to learn about Women :-

YouTube - How To Get Your Girlfriend Back - Steps To Get Your Ex Back

Narayanjot Kaur · #77 (**permalink**) 02-Jan-2009, 22:27 PM

NamJap ji

This was an interesting video. And there was some truth in the message. But sometimes a break-up is actually an opportunity to grow as a person when a relationship ends. In each relationship there are two or more individuals, each with a destined path. If I am correct about this, then the causes of a break-up may at one level seem to be about specific faults and deficiencies. But at another level, the faults and deficiencies may be signs and symptoms of the calling of a deeper self which only an individual, himself/herself, can acknowledge and address. And that only if those faults and deficiencies really need to be addressed.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=18966

Changing who we are -- we really can do it only if the change is guided by a desire to become a more realized person. Don't change if the goal is to retrieve another person. That person has his/her own spiritual and emotional work to do. We all have our own spiritual and emotional work to do. No other one and no other thing can do it for us. Just my humble opinion after years of failure. Forgive me if I have offended anyone.

Astroboy · #78 (**permalink**) 02-Jan-2009, 23:27 PM

Aad Ji,

This reminds me of another video that explains why we should not judge others with one time experience. It's about a father who asks his four sons to visit a particular tree deep in the forest. One son goes in autumn, another in winter, another in spring and another in summer. Each brought back different feedback about the tree. Then their father made them compare notes and explained that in their own view point they were all right and wrong at the same time.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=18966
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=18966

Food for thought, don't keep one mind set about your partner or ex. Time changes everyone.

Narayanjot Kaur · #79 (**permalink**) 02-Jan-2009, 23:52 PM

Nam Jap ji

What you say is true and the story is a very good story. The self-help movement sells advice and makes a fortune. Do you think -- and I don 't mean to sound like a religious fanatic when I say this -- do you think that a lot of the advice on the web is manmukh speaking? That it is too much about the ME and someone else is MY PROBLEM?