Just imagine , that when you grow up , your parents say that they need you because they sacrificed their lives for you not because they love you .

Or , take it the other way , You look after your parents because they have sacrificed their lives for you not out of love but mere obligation.


Such , type of relationship is not the relationship out of love and kinship but a materialistic one.
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Repeatedly , Advocating that so and so many people have sacrificed for you so you have to be follow this and this .

Such , type of techniques do nothing but switches on the guilt system of the person .

Then whatever a person does is , not does out of love or Kinship , But , does it as a mere obligation of "AHSAN" ie a materialistic relationship.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=5495

There two ways to solve a problem :

1. by hook or by crook method
2. a sincere effort in solving problem

first one has the short gain while the second has the long term vision.