I'm a white Canadian girl who recently started going to Gurdwara (though I have been doing much reading and wanting to follow Sikhism for about 10 years - I know this is the path I want, so the question is not about 'waiting to see if this is what I want')Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/love-and-marriage/38883-questions-about-meeting-a-sikh-guy.html
I met a guy online... he is Punjabi descent but was born and raised and lived his whole life in Britain. He now lives in Canada... on the opposite side of the country from me (I am on the East Coast he is on the West Coast).
We first sent messages back and forth online and that progressed to SMS and finally talking on the phone. Both of us really want to meet and he has told me he feels like something may be there worth exploring and life is too short... he is coming to the East Cost to meet me... and I really want to meet him! He knows I am white (obviously) and that I am fairly new to Sikhi.
Now here is what I am concerned about
1. He is obviously shelling out a significant airfare to come see me. What if he meets me and he just isn't attracted to me like he thinks he is? I have told him in email already that obviously we are meeting to see if we are compatible, but I would feel very bad if it didn't work out that way... and he assured me that the worst thing that would happen is he gets to see the East Coast and we become good mates.
2. He is 'separated' - I know in Sikhism that divorce is not usually an option, but also that in certain circumstances where there just is no chance of reconciliation that permission can be granted for divorce and remarrying. He told me his Mother is VERY devout religious... and he confided in me that she told him she wants him to be happy... and he emphasized that is a huge thing for her to say (meaning there must not be any chance that they can reconcile). In fact, he moved from the UK to Canada to 'start over'Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=38883
3. Would his Mother ever accept a 'white' Sikh?
I have good feelings about this man, and he seems like a kind and genuine person. And I do want to find a Sikh guy to settle down with. Since the local Sikh community is not large, my only option is to meet someone online and take it from there... I just want to be sure that I am not getting myself into a bad situation.