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Originally Posted by Luckysingh  It's very good that you value in this manner.
I have to agree but can't say that I've always been this way.
Although, my wife, even though she is a smacking stunner but I only see her for her inner values now.
Then again, if she wasn't a stunner, then I honestly don't think that we would have been married. What I'm trying to say here is that, the physical attraction is kind of required, definitely at first. As, when you bypass this then you recognize the inner beauty. -
-Well, maybe it's just me and the way I was!!! But, I know I never gave in or went after too easily in my younger days. The female had to be nice and attractive before I got any closer, or otherwise I simply had NO feeling. It could have just been my pride, as I knew that I had interest and appeal OR it was just a kind of misleading illusion.
It is funny in a way, because none of those things ever matter now that I am much wiser.
As young kids we think that all adults are perfect and wise, then as we grow we start to realise the truth. In a similar way, we probably think and feel that all relationships are about wining & dining, being physical and romance. But then we wisen up and realise there is much more to each other than all that.
The only strong survivor and bond of any relationship, be it your spouse, brother or mother is simply the TRUTH. |
Satnaam Lucky Ji,
very true, i think like a lot of people, attraction physically also meant a lot to me. My current wife i found and stil find attractive physically, and this played a strong part in the initial attraction towards her.
Personalities in the end can make or break a relationship.
Marriage is almost like a personality cleansing process...your own negative aspects of your persoanlity will come to the surface.
If you both have strong Ego's then both parties never give in and don't try to better their OWN behaviour....and a divorce beckons. people look out and comment about the others bad habbits, behaviour, personality, but their Ego prevents them from looking at their own bad habbits, behaviour and personality aspects.
in the end you learn that you should only judge yourself, and by doing so, maybe your own daily actions will then benefit your partners behaviour and life.
was it michael jackson that sang "if you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change"
song was man in the mirror.
Anyway, thats enough about relationships for one day .... or shall i catch some jeremy kyle
(i;m working from home
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