Responding to original Post, here are some of the thoughts: Even if one is unable to extend onself to take Babaji in embrace, one should do it;
Even if one is not able to snap off ego boundaries , one should do it;
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Even if one does not like it, one should do it,
His grace comes to us through Baba ji through our 'unconscious' wisdom-self or 'conscious' self. Submission of self ensures its receipt. Let one become a part that smoothens the flow of this Grace that one may always reject afterward but Let that one should become so that divine purpose be achieved.
So do it so that there is no Hindrance in the Divine flow of Grace. What and why others do be not thy concern.Let it be so if it is so.
I am reminded of a line of Japu ji Sahib...
Lakh sianapa..hovey ta ek na chalay naal
Kiv sachiara hoveea kiv kurre Tute paal.Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=38540 plus
While in Rome do as the Romans do.. And
Some keertanayes sing and recite the following before taking up the shabad. Dandaut Vandan Anik Baar Sarab Kala Samrath;
Dolan te Rakhu Prabhu Nanak de kar hath....