It goes both ways. There are many of us who want to marry a Gursikh boy with Kesh, Turban and who doesn't drink but are struggling to find. People laugh at me when I say I want a non-drinker as Sikh boys are famous for being alcoholics and get told to stop being so strict but I don't give in like the boys cutting their hair do. Is this the fault of the women? Are men showing himmat in standing up for what they believe in? The blame game should be stopped as all are at fault and we should work together to reduce problems among our community and in the world at large. Keep the discussion constructive and work together as equal partners. Generalisations will get you nowhere. Anyone who takes appropriate action should be commended-male or female.