From a logical standpoint I dont get the whole sex issue in religion. People say you are to marry a woman because you love her not because you want to engage in physicial intimacy. However, this would seem to indicate that physical intimacy is not important so therefore if its not important then why make a big deal about it. If it is important to a relationship dont you want to know who you are most sexually compatible with? Different people have different sex drives. I know this goes against religious orthodoxy but I think sex is the last step to see whether two people are compatible. Personally, I dont have sex nor do I date. I try to control my sexual urges plus I am extremely busy but even though I am not having sexual relations but I dont see anything wrong with people who do. Its hard to explain I just know that when i used to kiss different girls some of them I felt absolutely no connection with others immediately felt some kind of magentic spark.
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Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=3091

I hope I didnt offend anyone